Month: December 2016

Hasta la vista, sad old New Year’s resolutions! Voilà: Better ideas to start a new year/week/day with.

Hey, lovely radicals!

Thank you all for your wonderful feedback for my last podcast episode on marketing literacy and better ideas for New Year’s resolutions. The responses have made my eyes swim.

A lot of you have asked for a written version as a handy reminder. Great idea!
(I’ll make it two posts, though, for length-reasons. Let’s tackle the resolutions first.)

Tadaaaa! January—the international month of mass-dieting—is ahead.
So here it comes thundering in again, the usual tsunami of the same old, diet-y New Year’s resolutions. What a biiiig surprise (yawn): Only 243’039’472 differently packaged versions of
“Just do THIS and happiness is yours!” Did you notice? All they are is a serving of “copy-paste” from last year, the year before, and the many years before that!—Some new products, some new gadgets… but the same crap all over: The message that we need to fix ourselves to be acceptable and—conveniently attached to it—any number of ideas how to go about that.

Enough already!

Sadly, they still get clicks. In fact, the more weight-loss-promising they are, the more clicks they get. That only shows how successfully the idea that “thin is better” has been marketed to us over the past decades.
After all the different ways this idea has been presented to us—anything from “Heroin-chic” to “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” to “Fitspo”, including the viciously spreading trend “Healthy is the new skinny”—millions of people have now come to believe that “healthy” has a LOOK! That “healthy” has a number on the scale.
(—How convenient for disordered eaters to hide their weight-loss-obsession behind: “Oh, I just want to be healthy!”)
People are now subscribing to ideas of clean eating, believing that this is the magic bullet to health, even if it often leads them into very dark rabbit holes of orthorexia and—funny, huh?—very unhealthy states. Sadly, this trend is rampant and turns women and girls into obsessed, rule-based, fearful, compulsive eaters that are anything BUT healthy or happy.
(Needless to say that if all of these trends didn’t promise some sort of weight-loss, we wouldn’t be as obsessed and clinging to all the ways “health” is now being marketed to us:
Cleanses, Paleo, Raw, Clean Eating, Multi-Level-Marketing schemes like “Beach Body” and all its nasty cousins, any number of weight-loss-challenges, and the gazillion of differently wrapped ideas that keep creeping into our feeds and burn themselves on to our already compromised hard drives.)

When all that matters is how we look and how others perceive us, we end up giving up our power and we end up ready and willing to try everything, no matter the cost.
Now matter how UN-healthy and miserable it makes us.

So. New Year’s resolutions.
Really?

Let me gently open the lid of my internal garbage grinder and enjoy the lovely sound of all of those little bastards being torn to shreds.

Aaaaaaah. Relief.
And now that the table is clear, let’s rewrite that script, shall we?
So, for the fun of it, as an emergency backup or just for inspiration, let’s create some NEW, sustainable, kind, game-changing New Year’s resolutions.
Well.
Since everything in our life has been about “have to“s and “gotta get to“s, “should“s and “no more“s—and we’ve all been running ourselves into the ground with these—THIS time, we’re going to abandon that sinking self-flagellation ship and make our list about PERMISSION. (Yep. The thing we think about least.)

Here are some of my ideas for now and forever after; take as many as you wish!

Some last words before I go:
You have permission to just be you, and to try to be as kind to yourself as you can.
We all deserve more freedom and joy, and this is a good time to allow some of that in, instead of opening the door to mood-darkening messages and self-defeating thoughts.

You deserve it.

You matter.

—And to prevent any sort of diet-mentality from creeping back into our minds after New Years Eve, you can count on me; I’ll be back January 2, with a new podcast episode with a wonderful guest who knows everything about kindness, especially when it comes to how we live with our bodies.
Good stuff is coming your way, radicals.
See you on the other side!

Love,
Meret.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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LU 023: Me, solo – How to become a critical consumer, make better resolutions & 1000 thank-yous.



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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”—Anaïs Nin.

Lovely radicals!
My knees are a little wobbly, as I bring to you my end-of-the-year solo-episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast.
That’s because what I put together, isn’t just the usual fluffy-jingly Christmas talk.

See, all around me, people are in a buying frenzy, we are all being bombarded by “special offers” and “limited editions” and “gift ideas”.
And I can’t help thinking of this excellent quote—credited to 15 different people, so I wonder if I should make it mine…? Just kidding!—that says:

“We are persuaded to buy things we don’t need, with money we don’t have, to impress people we don’t care about.”

And as if THAT wasn’t enough to give me a million ideas for this podcast, we are ALSO being bombarded by the same old, sucked dry, tried-and-failed weight-loss New Year’s resolutions. I can’t even with this nonsense anymore!
It makes me want to poke my eyeballs with a pencil and make monkey noises.

This has got to change.

So I’m going to talk about it.
Yes, I feel vulnerable to let the world know where I stand on some of the matters I will be talking about, but that’s a perfect indicator: This is exactly what I have to do.

Get ready, dear ones.
This episode is packed full of what I know about present-day marketing and how this ties into our world’s collective, terrible state of body image.
In my opinion, this knowledge is crucial to become more critical as a consumer and better equipped to see behind façades.

This episode also contains a truckload of NEW New Year’s resolutions to keep you strong on this path towards liberating your wonderful self, and not to fall for the tired old bunch of weight-lossy ones.

And lastly, this episode is full of love. Full of gratitude for you showing up, full of respect for your continuous growth, full of awe for our collective support, our community, our sister- and brotherhood, for lack of a less wooo-wooo word. All of what I say today, is based on my interest to see us blossom.

One promise: After listening to this, you will be perfectly equipped to step into the New Year with an awake mind, a well-oiled internal bullshit-detector, and a protective shield against the onslaught of body negative messages around you.
One warning: Listening to this may cause you to question some beliefs you might have subconsciously been holding on to, and that might feel uncomfortable.
One secret: That’s a sign of growth! Growth happens out of your comfort zone.

See why my knees are shaky?
This one is important.
If I had one Christmas gift wish, I would love for all the (wo)men in the world to have a chance to listen to this. For they deserve to live life true to themselves.

Thank you a million times for being on this journey with me….
You are incredible people, radicals.

I love you.
Meret.

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LU 022: Lauren Anton – Reconnect with your body’s innate wisdom and let go of societal rules.



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Hey, lovely radicals. Podcast time!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, you’re going to hear Lauren Anton from Culver City, California.

Lauren is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Personal Trainer specializing in eating disorders and sports nutrition. She is the owner of “Arrive: Nutrition, Movement, Life”. She has years of experience working at Eating Disorders Treatment facilities, in most levels of care, from Residential Treatment to Intensive Outpatient Treatment. She helps people who struggle with weight, food and exercise. Her goal is to assist her clients in moving away from a punitive experience with food and movement to one of self-compassion and self-care. Her non-diet, Health At Every Size approach allows people to break free from the chains of rules they have set for themselves that don’t serve them anymore, and she helps to guide them to an understanding of how their relationship to food, exercise and emotions are influencing each-other and their bodies. Lauren has spoken at numerous national conferences and events on eating disorders and sports nutrition.
Today, Lauren will tell us:
– What her earliest memory is of relating to bodies
– How her mother’s restriction of snacks led to her binging on them secretly
– Why she forced herself to become an athlete “against” her true inner will
– What she sees when she looks at pictures of herself as a teenager, back when she was convinced she was fat
– Why many women with anorexia don’t “look anorexic” and won’t get the help they need as long as doctors rely on something bogus like the BMI
– What her advice is for all the parents out there who are dealing with doctors commenting on their child’s weight
– What kind of experiences and comments made her develop a bad body image
– Why her obsession with body and body image was centered around athleticism
– How she learned to ignore her body’s signals just to be accepted as an athlete
– Why focusing on the shapes and sizes of bodies isn’t helpful in sports, and what we should be focusing on instead
– Why it is important to know and expect that giving up coping mechanisms like dieting or overexercising is going to bring up anxiety
– Why people who exercise compulsively or engage in other disordered eating behaviors won’t heal if they “wait until they feel ready”
– Why she thinks many people have to rock bottom until they allow themselves to change their lifestyle and finally heal
– What her own rock bottom was
– What kind of questions we can ask ourselves when we are tempted to fall back into old habits of weight-obsessing…
… And so much more!

 

Check out Lauren’s (brand new!) website and find out about her coaching business at:
http://www.arrivenutrition.com

 

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LU 021: Christy Harrison – Codependency, trauma, and healing our eating issues.



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Hey, sweet radicals, here we go again: Podcast!

This week, on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to bring to you a fellow podcaster and size-acceptance fighter… It is the wonderful Christy Harrison from New York.

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Christy is an intuitive eating coach and anti-diet registered dietitian who helps people make peace with food. She offers online intuitive eating courses and individual nutrition therapy for people who want to heal their difficult relationship to food. Her work is based on Health At Every size and is coming from a body positive perspective, which is wonderful. Being a journalist as well, she has written for numerous magazines and websites, including Refinery29, Gourmet, The Food Network and others. She is also hosting a podcast that has had a great influence on me and my courage to recover from restriction, binging and overexercising. Christy and I chatted on a Sunday, evening for me, morning for her, so both of us in chill mode.
Listen to Christy as she tells us:
– How her relationship to food and body was when she grew up
– What kind of experiences planted a seed in her mind that her body wasn’t good-looking enough
– How her mother related to food, body and weight
– Why her more serious eating difficulties didn’t start early in life, but only when she was in college
– What experience it was that made her decide to change her body, go on diets and restrict her food
– Why her mother didn’t recognize her eating behaviors and her struggle with bulimia
– How she justified her behaviors around food and why it took her a long time to step out of denial
– How not having the right therapist and physician negatively influenced her behavior
– Why her codependency, of all things, turned out to be a saving grace in regards to taking the necessary steps toward recovery
– How she subsequently healed her relationship to food and how self-compassion was critical
– How early attachment issues often manifest in eating disorders and codependency
– How therapy helped her heal her relationship to food, eating, and her sense of self-worth
– How she helps her clients who want to give up lifelong dieting, disordered eating or eating disorders
– How she helps people find to a weight-neutral approach to health
– Why taking charge of our social media feed is so important and can be so healing
– Why she thinks Health At Every Size (HAES) is the only way to truly heal our relationship with food and our weight
– Why self-compassion and patience are pivotal in healing our body image and how we relate to food and weight…
… And so much more!

 

Check out Christy’s website:
http://www.christyharrison.com

Here’s the link to her podcast called “Food Psych”:
https://itunes.apple.com/ch/podcast/food-psych-podcast-about-intuitive/id700512884?mt=2

 

********* Don’t forget!*********

Make sure to join my tribe and meet some of the most supportive, loving and kind people of all shapes and sizes, including great coaches and leaders!

We’re right over here at:

We’re all a click away…

 

Please consider supporting the podcast with a donation by becoming a “Patreon”; so that I can keep producing it.
Thank you!
Here’s the link:
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Please: Do subscribe on iTunes (Apple):
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