Month: July 2017

LU 053: Me, solo – When the inner Gremlin insists on perfectionism and productivity, give him this.



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Hey there, lovely radicals… podcast time!

This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s time to call out the inner Gremlin voice and all its rules that it is constantly making up for us.
Most of you might be familiar with those thoughts; the ones that tell us we have to be “on” all the time, that we “better pull ourselves together”, that we have “to soldier on, no matter what”, that we have “to power through”, that it’s our “duty to be productive”, that we need “o prove our worth”, that it’s our job to always “be the responsible one”, and that we – heaven forbid! – can never (ever!) be perceived as “a slacker”…
Sound familiar?
Now… wait a minute.
Whose thoughts are these?
Mine?
Yours?
No way!
These are inner Gremlin thoughts.

They are NOT truth.

And in order for us to keep our sanity, and to take responsibility for ourselves and our wellbeing, we need to talk back to those Gremlin thoughts.
We have to learn to let those Gremlin thoughts be just what they are: Thoughts.
Not something we have to act upon.

Because we are of no use to the world when we are burnt out, when we are running on empty, and when we are secretly breeding resentment left and right, because we aren’t listening to our needs, and not creating healthy boundaries.

Also in this shortie:
– Why the myth of „we should be happy all the time“ is detrimental to our wellbeing
– What the myth of „we should be productive at all times“ does to our mental and physical health – Why „I’m Fine!“ is one of the most common lies
– Why we take on false identities (“The Fit one”, “The Healthy Eater”, “The Perfect Mom”, “The Not-Ever-Complainer”, “The Productive One”, “The Happy, Smiley One” etc…) and how these false identities end up shackling and constricting us
– Why it’s an act of bravery and the only path to true liberation to step up from behind our masks and reclaim our truth, our own personal values, our purpose, and to let go of old identities that might once have served us
– Why we will only find „our people“ when we start showing up „real and authentic“ ourselves…

… And so much more!

Time for some permission slips!
Re-listen to episode 23 with me:
http://www.lifeunrestricted.org/lu023

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LU 052: Jennifer Rollin – Exercise bulimia, engrained habits, ED myths, and getting very personal.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s not just vulnerability time, it’s not just real, raw badassery time, no, it’s also … Well, it’s actually the most fun episode with the most unexpected circumstances I’ve ever had. Mix that with the incredible depth of the conversation, and you’ve got a pretty unique ride ahead of you. And the mission for this one is pretty simple: It is to say, hey, who ever you are out there, you are not alone, you are not crazy, you are not broken… Recovery is messy like that. Eating disorders really come in all shapes and sizes, and they take many forms for the sufferer too. So, lovely radicals, It is my extreme pleasure to bring you Jennifer Rollin, a professional psychotherapist in private practice in Rockville, Maryland.

Jennifer is an eating disorder and body image specialist, and expert writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping people to find freedom from eating disorders and body-hatred. Jennifer has completed certificates in CBT-E for Eating Disorders (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), and is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is a member of The Junior Board of Directors for The National Eating Disorders Association, and her articles have reached thousands of people through print and online media including The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, FabUplus Magazine, Social Work Today Magazine… From out of her practice in Rockville, she offers eating disorder therapy and eating disorder recovery coaching to people worldwide. If you were wondering where the fun part of the situation comes in…… Well, listen for yourself!
Jennifer talks about:
– Why this very interview is proof that perfectionism is a hindrance to fully experiencing life
– How she discovered Health at Every Size (HAES) and why she didn’t fully understand it at first
– Why being weight-centric is an active hindrance to recovery from yoyo-dieting, disordered eating, eating disorders AND binge eating
– Why she often gets frustrated when people completely misunderstand the message of HAES
– When to invest in educating others about HAES and when to prioritize self-care and step back
– Why it is so hard to recover into a world that actively promotes disordered eating and disordered exercise behaviors
– How we can talk to ourselves when we’re struggling and there’s no one around who seems to understand
– How weight-stigma in eating disorders treatment often hinders a full recovery for those who are in treatment, and prevents millions who suffer from actually GETTING treatment
– What she would want the world to know about eating disorders and the myths surrounding them
– Why the common depiction of eating disorders (anorexia, skeletally skinny, mostly white teenage girls) in the media actually represents the smallest percentage of how eating disorders manifest, and why this is detrimental for all of those who suffer and “don’t feel sick enough”
– Why some of the sickest people are not officially diagnosable
– What she means when she describes eating disorders as being “competitive and comparative diseases”
– Her thoughts on exercise bulimia and why this – very common! – subtype of eating disorders is not being openly addressed more widely
– What makes exercise bulimia so hard to overcome
– How to reframe exercise behaviors in recovery from compulsive exercise, when the voice in our heads tells us that we “can’t rest”
– How to decode those negative body thoughts and find what they really stand for
– How to find out what our compulsive behaviors around exercise and food are really about
– How to make behavioral changes and set small challenges that support recovery
– Why discomfort is an inevitable result of going against our ED voice, and how to see that discomfort as a sign of success in recovery
– How she would deal with a client who suffers from exercise bulimia
– How she would address entrenched behaviors and habits/rituals that have been in place for years
– Why it is so important (in any process of recovery) to find out what really brings us joy in life, and add those things into our lives that do NOT revolve around food or exercise
– How we can start to decode and make sense of our are behaviors
– How we can recognize moments of body neutrality and slowly create more of those
– Why it’s important to ask ourselves “what would I like my life to look like in 5 years from now?”
– How she addresses the fear of weight gain with her clients
– How to find out what we really want when we say that we “just want to be thin”
– How to give less of a damn about what other people think of our recovery, our looks, our eating, our weight or any other comments
– How to see the gift in losing those people who only “loved” us for an artificial version of ourselves
– Why this process of recovery is the doorway to finding those people who really love us for who we are
– The advantage of getting into the mindset of “giving recovery a try”, just as one would do with an experiment
– Why we need to change behaviors first, in order for the thoughts to be able to adjust and change (or in other words, why there is no “thinking ourselves into recovery”)
– Why eliminating all restrictions is the crucial step in recovery from anorexia and bulimia
– How, after eliminating all restrictions, the most important next step must be to eliminate all compensatory behaviors for eating
– Why never to forget that eating disorders are sneaky, and so behaviors can sneak back in almost unnoticeably and suddenly we’re deep in unwanted behaviors again
– Why having an accountability partner when reducing the amount and intensity of exercise can be the key to avoid denial…
… And so much more!

Check out Jennifer’s website:
http://www.jenniferrollin.com

Please consider supporting the podcast with a donation by becoming a “Patreon”; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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LU 051: Andrea Wachter – How to make therapy work for you (whatever your struggle might be).



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Andrea Wachter from California.

Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of “Getting Over Overeating”. She is also the co-author of “The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook” and “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the ‘I feel fat’ Spell”, a book for kids who struggle with body image. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise and her personal recovery to help others overcome their struggles with food, body image, exercise and weight. Today, you’ll hear Andrea talk about:
– How she remembers feeling in her body as a child
– How her parents related to food and weight
– What made her feel ashamed about her body and got her to start dieting
– How she hid her struggles with food from her family
– Why she compares the way she related to food with the way a drug addict relates to drugs – Why she, as so many, believed “If I just change my body, I will be ok”
– How her eating disorder took over her life, and no one had a clue, because she looked so “put together” and pretended everything was fine
– Why she eventually did turn to alcohol and drugs to numb her pain from feeling “not enough”
– How she found her way back to herself
– Why she feels hope that more people are getting help these days
– What concerns her about this “age of social media” we are living in today
– How she has to deal with younger and younger girls and boys who are already obsessed with their appearance and restricting food
– How to avoid the “addiction transfer”-trap
– How our emotions (usually the ones we repress the most) play into the way we relate to our bodies
– Why body- and weight-obsessing is often a distraction from deeper issues
– Why for so many, their struggles with food tend to get overlooked in therapy
– What she found out about people’s issues with their bodies when she worked with recovering drug addicts and alcoholics
– Why having the “wrong” therapist can do much more harm than good
– What to look out for in a therapist, and how to spot it it’s the right one for you
– The fallacy of thinking that “staying in the disordered mindset is easier than having to face the pain”
– The fallacy of believing that we are supposed to “be happy” all the time
– What happens when we try to avoid difficult feelings
– Why it is crucial never to forget the reality behind social media and people’s performance of “health”, “happiness”, “fitness”, etc.
– How we can all upgrade our unkind mind patterns
– How to become aware of the nasty tricks our minds can play with us
– How our negative thoughts turn into negative feelings and into negative behaviors
– How to find out what the next steps are that you are actually capable of taking that will lead to more and more steps
– What she found out about the bad body image legacy that was passed on to her from talking to her parents
– How our own beliefs shape our perception, which, in turn, shapes our behavior
– How we can break the bad body image legacy
– Why never to expect other people to change, but to focus on our own growth instead…
… And so much more!

Check out Andrea’s websites:
http://www.andreawachter.com
http://www.innersolutions.net

Here’s the link to “The Human Fulfillment Institute”:
http://www.humanfulfillment.org

And here’s the link to Andrea Wachter’s books on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/Books-Andrea-Wachter/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Abooks%2Cp_27%3AAndrea%20Wachter

Please consider supporting the podcast by becoming a “Patreon”; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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LU 050: Sarah Harry – Yoga without pressure or fancy pants; the kind that is for… EVERY BODY!



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Sarah Harry from Melbourne, Australia.

Sarah is a psychotherapist, yoga teacher, researcher, writer and university lecturer. As a leading body image and eating disorders specialist and experienced clinician she has a refreshing perspective on bodies, weight, movement and inclusivity. Sarah was the first yogi in Australia to offer yoga for bigger bodies. She has practiced yoga for more than 20 years, and as the owner and founder of “Fat Yoga”, she runs specialist classes and retreats. She is also co-director of “Body Positive Australia” (alongside Fiona Sutherland, whom I interviewed in episode 28). Sarah is a member of the Yoga and Body Image Coalition USA, sits on the National Advisory Board of Health at Every Size Australia and she is a member of the National Eating Disorders Coalition. Listen in as Sarah tells us:
– How Fiona and herself started working together, and how “Body Positive Australia” came into existence
– Where they both see the problem with the term “Body Positivity”, and how it’s being co-opted
– Why there are opportunities to help change the system from the inside
– How she aims to get her message across in interviews
– Why authenticity and humor have helped her a great deal
– How she decided to show up in regards to her own personal family story
– What readers of “Fat Yoga” tell her they are most thankful for
– What she remembers about growing up in a body that was different from what her parents believed was “a good body”
– How her 20-year-long quest to be thin started, and what it cost her
– Why she never told anyone about her raging eating disorder
– How her body hate led her to have various surgeries and why she believed the massive pain those caused her was “the punishment for being bigger”
– Why she would NEVER recommend weight-loss-surgery to anyone
– At what point she started to turn her life around
– Why she hit the jackpot with the person she ended up working with
– Why yoga is often misunderstood in the west, and what it’s really about
– Why she works on bringing more “real” yoga to the field of recovery
– How she called out “The Yogi Times” on their weight-stigmatizing articles
– Why people react with anger when their beliefs, that they were invested in for so long, are challenged
– When and how to address people’s weight-biases, and what reactions to expect
– Why “body love” can be a misleading and overwhelming term, and why “body acceptance” or “body neutrality” can be much more helpful
– Why Instagram (and social media in general) are intensifying people’s focus on bodies and appearances, and what she has to say about that
– Why there are people who dislike the term “all bodies are good bodies”…

… And so much more!

Here’s the link to Sarah’s website:
http://www.fatyoga.com.au

Check out the “Body Positive Australia” website:
http://www.bodypositiveaustralia.com.au

Link to the “Weight Bias & Stigma Tools” of the Uconn Rudd Center: http://www.uconnruddcenter.org/weight-bias-stigma-tools-for-researchers

Please consider supporting the podcast by becoming a “Patreon”; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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