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LU 051: Andrea Wachter – How to make therapy work for you (whatever your struggle might be).



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Andrea Wachter from California.

Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of “Getting Over Overeating”. She is also the co-author of “The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook” and “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the ‘I feel fat’ Spell”, a book for kids who struggle with body image. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise and her personal recovery to help others overcome their struggles with food, body image, exercise and weight. Today, you’ll hear Andrea talk about:
– How she remembers feeling in her body as a child
– How her parents related to food and weight
– What made her feel ashamed about her body and got her to start dieting
– How she hid her struggles with food from her family
– Why she compares the way she related to food with the way a drug addict relates to drugs – Why she, as so many, believed “If I just change my body, I will be ok”
– How her eating disorder took over her life, and no one had a clue, because she looked so “put together” and pretended everything was fine
– Why she eventually did turn to alcohol and drugs to numb her pain from feeling “not enough”
– How she found her way back to herself
– Why she feels hope that more people are getting help these days
– What concerns her about this “age of social media” we are living in today
– How she has to deal with younger and younger girls and boys who are already obsessed with their appearance and restricting food
– How to avoid the “addiction transfer”-trap
– How our emotions (usually the ones we repress the most) play into the way we relate to our bodies
– Why body- and weight-obsessing is often a distraction from deeper issues
– Why for so many, their struggles with food tend to get overlooked in therapy
– What she found out about people’s issues with their bodies when she worked with recovering drug addicts and alcoholics
– Why having the “wrong” therapist can do much more harm than good
– What to look out for in a therapist, and how to spot it it’s the right one for you
– The fallacy of thinking that “staying in the disordered mindset is easier than having to face the pain”
– The fallacy of believing that we are supposed to “be happy” all the time
– What happens when we try to avoid difficult feelings
– Why it is crucial never to forget the reality behind social media and people’s performance of “health”, “happiness”, “fitness”, etc.
– How we can all upgrade our unkind mind patterns
– How to become aware of the nasty tricks our minds can play with us
– How our negative thoughts turn into negative feelings and into negative behaviors
– How to find out what the next steps are that you are actually capable of taking that will lead to more and more steps
– What she found out about the bad body image legacy that was passed on to her from talking to her parents
– How our own beliefs shape our perception, which, in turn, shapes our behavior
– How we can break the bad body image legacy
– Why never to expect other people to change, but to focus on our own growth instead…
… And so much more!

Check out Andrea’s websites:
http://www.andreawachter.com
http://www.innersolutions.net

Here’s the link to “The Human Fulfillment Institute”:
http://www.humanfulfillment.org

And here’s the link to Andrea Wachter’s books on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/Books-Andrea-Wachter/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Abooks%2Cp_27%3AAndrea%20Wachter

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LU 043: Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld – Today’s body-obsessed culture promotes disordered eating.



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This week on the the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, we all have a chance to meet Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld from Coral Gables, Florida.

Stacey is a clinical psychologist specializing in eating disorders and body image concerns. She also works with substance misuse, anxiety and mood disorders, infertility, and relationship difficulties. A certified group psychotherapist and certified eating disorder specialist, Dr. Rosenfeld has worked at various treatment centers and universities and now directs the “Gatewell Therapy Center” in Miami, Florida. Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld is the author of “Does Every Woman Have an Eating Disorder? Challenging Our Nation’s Fixation with Food and Weight”, based on her award-winning blog of the same name. She is committing to helping people develop healthier relationships with food and their bodies. She is a member of the National Eating Disorder Association, the International Association for Eating Disorder Professionals, and the Academy for Eating Disorders, she lectures around the country, and she has appeared on numerous media outlets, including the Today Show and ABC News.
In this talk, Stacey shares with us:
– When her first judgment about her body entered her mind
– What she found out in all of her years of clinical work with regards to women and eating issues
– What the terrible consequences can be of the myopic depiction of eating disorders in the media
– Why people so often deny having a troublesome relationship to food, weight and exercise
– What she has to say to those people who are “waiting” for the symptoms to go away as they age
– What defines disordered eating, eating disorders and a compulsive relationship to exercise
– The different ways in which she sees the display of disordered eating
– How she uses motivational interviewing with her patients
– Why it is that eating issues often go unaddressed in therapy, and the cost of that
– What it is that connects eating issues with alcohol and/or substance misuse
– What is wrong with the increasingly thoughtless prescription of (speed-like) drug for ADHD
– Why bodies break down when they are pushed to the limit, be it with exercise/drugs/etc.
– What a person with an addiction is trying to get away from
– How everything can be used to self-medicate, but sadly, some of those behaviors even get applause (work/exercise/perfectionism/restriction), no matter how hellish the person might feel inside
– Why we don’t really want to be accepted for a facade-like life, but our real selves, warts and all
– What happens when women start asking themselves what they could be doing with all the mental and physical energy wasted on “managing their appearance” (diets/exercise/surgeries, etc.)
– What she means when she says “women are zoomed in way too much”
– Why the concept of exercise and the concept of food should be divorced to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and obsessive behaviors
– Why the fitness classes she teaches are different than the usual ones
– How we can let go of exercising compulsively and reframe “success”
– How to become a more critical consumer of media instead of getting sucked in by its toxic messages about bodies
– Why language (towards ourselves and other people) is so important
– Which of her findings should really shake us all awake to how much this general “fear of fat” is holding us back
– How to recognize if a professional who specializes in eating disorders still has their own issues and biases…

… And so much more!

Check out Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld’s website:
http://www.gatewelltherapycenter.com

Here’s the link to her book “Does Every Woman Have An Eating Disorder?”:
https://www.amazon.com/Eating-Disorder-Challenging-Nations-Fixation/dp/0989851834

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LU 013: Chris Cole – A man makes peace with his body, mind, spirit and food.



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In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Chris Cole from Boulder, Colorado. Chris is a life coach and works with clients in recovery from any number of addictions, mood or behavioral issues. He has been through quite a journey himself. In fact, it was such a rollercoaster ride that he wrote a book about it: It’s called “The Body Of Chris – a Memoir of Obsession, Addiction and Madness”.

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Chris is a highly compassionate, positive force that helps people find their truth and their unique healing by offering an experienced perspective, a radical wellness orientation and an encouraging relationship that is crucial to sustainable growth. Listen in and hear Chris’ amazing story:
– What factors contributed to him feeling ashamed of his body in childhood
– Why early restriction only exacerbated his difficult relationship to food
– How being bullied and fat-shamed as a boy made him obsessed with losing weight
– How he learned to binge eat and the real danger of the concept of “cheat meals”
– How a personal trainer introduced him to diet-pills
– Why he didn’t realize the harm of them and quickly got hooked
– Why these “speedy” diet-pills turned out to be a gateway drug for him
– How his obsession with becoming thinner escalated into a whole range of problems
– When and how it became obvious for him and those around him that he was really sick
– What kind of harmful behaviors and habits contributed to his manic episode in college
– How manic episodes of psychosis typically present themselves and what it felt like for him
– How his deep body shame manifested in this peak moment of crisis
– Why his book is called “The Body of Chris”
– Why he is very passionate when talking about “The tragedy of the BMI”
– How he now sees that his alcohol/drug addictions are connected to his history of body shame and disordered eating as well as to his bipolar disorder
– Why he felt he had to numb out his sensitive nature
– What made him have liposuction at 17 and why that didn’t help him feel better about himself
– Why his body shame was the last and biggest hurdle on his road to full recovery
– Why he thinks recovery from any sort of destructive behavior is only the first step to dealing with the deeper problem that we tried to numb out from
– How vulnerability with his then-future-wife helped him take the necessary steps
– Why intuitive eating was so hard for him to learn
– How he deals with the messages that our weight-obsessed culture, TV and movies throw at us
– How meditation taught him to deal with his thoughts
– Why his current profile picture on Facebook represents what recovery looks like to him
– What having a body means to him these days and how he appreciates it, flaws and all…

… And so much more!

Check out Chris Cole and his coaching over at:
http://www.colecoaching.com
Here’s the link to Chris’ wonderful book “The Body Of Chris”:
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Chris-Obsession-Addiction-Madness/dp/1941758142/

 

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