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LU 052: Jennifer Rollin – Exercise bulimia, engrained habits, ED myths, and getting very personal.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s not just vulnerability time, it’s not just real, raw badassery time, no, it’s also … Well, it’s actually the most fun episode with the most unexpected circumstances I’ve ever had. Mix that with the incredible depth of the conversation, and you’ve got a pretty unique ride ahead of you. And the mission for this one is pretty simple: It is to say, hey, who ever you are out there, you are not alone, you are not crazy, you are not broken… Recovery is messy like that. Eating disorders really come in all shapes and sizes, and they take many forms for the sufferer too. So, lovely radicals, It is my extreme pleasure to bring you Jennifer Rollin, a professional psychotherapist in private practice in Rockville, Maryland.

Jennifer is an eating disorder and body image specialist, and expert writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping people to find freedom from eating disorders and body-hatred. Jennifer has completed certificates in CBT-E for Eating Disorders (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy), and is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is a member of The Junior Board of Directors for The National Eating Disorders Association, and her articles have reached thousands of people through print and online media including The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, FabUplus Magazine, Social Work Today Magazine… From out of her practice in Rockville, she offers eating disorder therapy and eating disorder recovery coaching to people worldwide. If you were wondering where the fun part of the situation comes in…… Well, listen for yourself!
Jennifer talks about:
– Why this very interview is proof that perfectionism is a hindrance to fully experiencing life
– How she discovered Health at Every Size (HAES) and why she didn’t fully understand it at first
– Why being weight-centric is an active hindrance to recovery from yoyo-dieting, disordered eating, eating disorders AND binge eating
– Why she often gets frustrated when people completely misunderstand the message of HAES
– When to invest in educating others about HAES and when to prioritize self-care and step back
– Why it is so hard to recover into a world that actively promotes disordered eating and disordered exercise behaviors
– How we can talk to ourselves when we’re struggling and there’s no one around who seems to understand
– How weight-stigma in eating disorders treatment often hinders a full recovery for those who are in treatment, and prevents millions who suffer from actually GETTING treatment
– What she would want the world to know about eating disorders and the myths surrounding them
– Why the common depiction of eating disorders (anorexia, skeletally skinny, mostly white teenage girls) in the media actually represents the smallest percentage of how eating disorders manifest, and why this is detrimental for all of those who suffer and “don’t feel sick enough”
– Why some of the sickest people are not officially diagnosable
– What she means when she describes eating disorders as being “competitive and comparative diseases”
– Her thoughts on exercise bulimia and why this – very common! – subtype of eating disorders is not being openly addressed more widely
– What makes exercise bulimia so hard to overcome
– How to reframe exercise behaviors in recovery from compulsive exercise, when the voice in our heads tells us that we “can’t rest”
– How to decode those negative body thoughts and find what they really stand for
– How to find out what our compulsive behaviors around exercise and food are really about
– How to make behavioral changes and set small challenges that support recovery
– Why discomfort is an inevitable result of going against our ED voice, and how to see that discomfort as a sign of success in recovery
– How she would deal with a client who suffers from exercise bulimia
– How she would address entrenched behaviors and habits/rituals that have been in place for years
– Why it is so important (in any process of recovery) to find out what really brings us joy in life, and add those things into our lives that do NOT revolve around food or exercise
– How we can start to decode and make sense of our are behaviors
– How we can recognize moments of body neutrality and slowly create more of those
– Why it’s important to ask ourselves “what would I like my life to look like in 5 years from now?”
– How she addresses the fear of weight gain with her clients
– How to find out what we really want when we say that we “just want to be thin”
– How to give less of a damn about what other people think of our recovery, our looks, our eating, our weight or any other comments
– How to see the gift in losing those people who only “loved” us for an artificial version of ourselves
– Why this process of recovery is the doorway to finding those people who really love us for who we are
– The advantage of getting into the mindset of “giving recovery a try”, just as one would do with an experiment
– Why we need to change behaviors first, in order for the thoughts to be able to adjust and change (or in other words, why there is no “thinking ourselves into recovery”)
– Why eliminating all restrictions is the crucial step in recovery from anorexia and bulimia
– How, after eliminating all restrictions, the most important next step must be to eliminate all compensatory behaviors for eating
– Why never to forget that eating disorders are sneaky, and so behaviors can sneak back in almost unnoticeably and suddenly we’re deep in unwanted behaviors again
– Why having an accountability partner when reducing the amount and intensity of exercise can be the key to avoid denial…
… And so much more!

Check out Jennifer’s website:
http://www.jenniferrollin.com

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LU 051: Andrea Wachter – How to make therapy work for you (whatever your struggle might be).



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Andrea Wachter from California.

Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of “Getting Over Overeating”. She is also the co-author of “The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook” and “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the ‘I feel fat’ Spell”, a book for kids who struggle with body image. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise and her personal recovery to help others overcome their struggles with food, body image, exercise and weight. Today, you’ll hear Andrea talk about:
– How she remembers feeling in her body as a child
– How her parents related to food and weight
– What made her feel ashamed about her body and got her to start dieting
– How she hid her struggles with food from her family
– Why she compares the way she related to food with the way a drug addict relates to drugs – Why she, as so many, believed “If I just change my body, I will be ok”
– How her eating disorder took over her life, and no one had a clue, because she looked so “put together” and pretended everything was fine
– Why she eventually did turn to alcohol and drugs to numb her pain from feeling “not enough”
– How she found her way back to herself
– Why she feels hope that more people are getting help these days
– What concerns her about this “age of social media” we are living in today
– How she has to deal with younger and younger girls and boys who are already obsessed with their appearance and restricting food
– How to avoid the “addiction transfer”-trap
– How our emotions (usually the ones we repress the most) play into the way we relate to our bodies
– Why body- and weight-obsessing is often a distraction from deeper issues
– Why for so many, their struggles with food tend to get overlooked in therapy
– What she found out about people’s issues with their bodies when she worked with recovering drug addicts and alcoholics
– Why having the “wrong” therapist can do much more harm than good
– What to look out for in a therapist, and how to spot it it’s the right one for you
– The fallacy of thinking that “staying in the disordered mindset is easier than having to face the pain”
– The fallacy of believing that we are supposed to “be happy” all the time
– What happens when we try to avoid difficult feelings
– Why it is crucial never to forget the reality behind social media and people’s performance of “health”, “happiness”, “fitness”, etc.
– How we can all upgrade our unkind mind patterns
– How to become aware of the nasty tricks our minds can play with us
– How our negative thoughts turn into negative feelings and into negative behaviors
– How to find out what the next steps are that you are actually capable of taking that will lead to more and more steps
– What she found out about the bad body image legacy that was passed on to her from talking to her parents
– How our own beliefs shape our perception, which, in turn, shapes our behavior
– How we can break the bad body image legacy
– Why never to expect other people to change, but to focus on our own growth instead…
… And so much more!

Check out Andrea’s websites:
http://www.andreawachter.com
http://www.innersolutions.net

Here’s the link to “The Human Fulfillment Institute”:
http://www.humanfulfillment.org

And here’s the link to Andrea Wachter’s books on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/Books-Andrea-Wachter/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=i%3Abooks%2Cp_27%3AAndrea%20Wachter

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LU 050: Sarah Harry – Yoga without pressure or fancy pants; the kind that is for… EVERY BODY!



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Sarah Harry from Melbourne, Australia.

Sarah is a psychotherapist, yoga teacher, researcher, writer and university lecturer. As a leading body image and eating disorders specialist and experienced clinician she has a refreshing perspective on bodies, weight, movement and inclusivity. Sarah was the first yogi in Australia to offer yoga for bigger bodies. She has practiced yoga for more than 20 years, and as the owner and founder of “Fat Yoga”, she runs specialist classes and retreats. She is also co-director of “Body Positive Australia” (alongside Fiona Sutherland, whom I interviewed in episode 28). Sarah is a member of the Yoga and Body Image Coalition USA, sits on the National Advisory Board of Health at Every Size Australia and she is a member of the National Eating Disorders Coalition. Listen in as Sarah tells us:
– How Fiona and herself started working together, and how “Body Positive Australia” came into existence
– Where they both see the problem with the term “Body Positivity”, and how it’s being co-opted
– Why there are opportunities to help change the system from the inside
– How she aims to get her message across in interviews
– Why authenticity and humor have helped her a great deal
– How she decided to show up in regards to her own personal family story
– What readers of “Fat Yoga” tell her they are most thankful for
– What she remembers about growing up in a body that was different from what her parents believed was “a good body”
– How her 20-year-long quest to be thin started, and what it cost her
– Why she never told anyone about her raging eating disorder
– How her body hate led her to have various surgeries and why she believed the massive pain those caused her was “the punishment for being bigger”
– Why she would NEVER recommend weight-loss-surgery to anyone
– At what point she started to turn her life around
– Why she hit the jackpot with the person she ended up working with
– Why yoga is often misunderstood in the west, and what it’s really about
– Why she works on bringing more “real” yoga to the field of recovery
– How she called out “The Yogi Times” on their weight-stigmatizing articles
– Why people react with anger when their beliefs, that they were invested in for so long, are challenged
– When and how to address people’s weight-biases, and what reactions to expect
– Why “body love” can be a misleading and overwhelming term, and why “body acceptance” or “body neutrality” can be much more helpful
– Why Instagram (and social media in general) are intensifying people’s focus on bodies and appearances, and what she has to say about that
– Why there are people who dislike the term “all bodies are good bodies”…

… And so much more!

Here’s the link to Sarah’s website:
http://www.fatyoga.com.au

Check out the “Body Positive Australia” website:
http://www.bodypositiveaustralia.com.au

Link to the “Weight Bias & Stigma Tools” of the Uconn Rudd Center: http://www.uconnruddcenter.org/weight-bias-stigma-tools-for-researchers

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LU 049: Erica Leon – Free yourself from chaotic patterns of yoyo-dieting and overexercising.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Erica Leon from Westchester County, New York.

Erica holds a Bachelor’s degree in nutrition from Cornell University and a Master’s degree in clinical nutrition from New York University. Erica works with clients all over the globe – by all technical means necessary -, people who struggle with food, their body, and people who want to overcome years of dieting or being stuck in disordered eating. She meets people where they are at and guides them to a better relationship to food and their body with a non-diet approach. She has 25 years of experience under her belt and her career has included working in hospitals, corporations and colleges. Ultimately combining all of her skills and interests, she established a private nutrition practice over 15 years ago. As a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) she also volunteers on the Board of the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals, she has written professional articles on nutritions, she frequently gives talks, and she has often been quoted in the media on topics such as eating disorder prevention and childhood weight issues.
Today, you’ll hear Erica talk about:
– How she remembers being in a body felt like as a child
– Where she internalized the message that her body was too big
– What the role of her family was in the development of her relationship to food
– What counting and tracking points/calories can do to our self-image
– Why it is so important to curate your social media feed, and to look at bodies in all shapes and sizes
– Why striving for “a flat stomach” is complete BS, and why having belly-fat is, in fact, important for a woman’s overall health as she gets older
– Why it is crucial to realize that we are all so much more than a body
– How it can be helpful to think about what we would love our legacy to be
– How long she lived with her own internal diet-mindset
– How she got into the field of nutrition
– Why she was working in the marketing department for a weight-loss company (and what memories about her connection to one of Oprah’s many weight-loss incidents still make her cringe)
– How she herself unknowingly contributed to diet-culture and its message that “thin is better”
– What made her realize that something was not right
– How working with eating disorders helped her on her own journey
– What she would tell her younger self with the knowledge she has now
– Why women often automatically objectify themselves according to what they see in the media and in ads
– Why she loves the “Poodle Science” video of the Academy of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH)
– The problem with today’s celebrity worshipping culture and the unfortunate influence they have on our children’s self-esteem
– How she’s helping one of her clients with exercise bulimia
– What the key ingredient is in the journey to give up lifelong dieting, as well as recovering from disordered eating or eating disorders
– Why it takes time, self-compassion, patience and community to heal our societally damaged body image and how we relate to food and weight
– How she curated her social media feed and left all the groups (and unfollowed/unfriended people) that were repeatedly engaging in of diet- and weight-loss-talk
– Why social media opened up a whole new world for her and made her realize that she wasn’t the only one AT ALL who was preaching the non-diet approach to health
– Why it is so hard for the old paradigm-believers to change their minds
– What kind of transformations she gets to witness in her practice…
… And so much more!

Check out Erica’s website:
http://www.ericaleon.com

Here’s the link to the wonderful “Poodle Science” video of the Academy of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H89QQfXtc-k

Make sure to support the podcast by becoming a “Patreon”, so that I can keep producing it and help as many people as possible. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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LU 047: Jessica Setnick – When eating and exercising turn into attempts at escaping emotions.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Jessica Setnick from Dallas, Texas.

Jessica is an internationally known pediatric dietitian, an award-winning writer and she is training professionals to work in the field of eating issues. She is definitely the best sort of woman to talk to about the origins of our world’s body image problem and our issues with eating and weight; Jessica is an icon in the eating disorder field. Her academic background is in human behavior and with her Master’s Degree in Exercise Physiology and Sports Nutrition, she has become an expert in dysfunctional and disordered eating who has a unique ability to see what others might miss. As a Certified Eating Disorder Dietitian and Dietitian Supervisor, she has treated thousands of patients in the hospital and out, and she knows how to identify the underlying issues influencing patients’ eating. Jessica is the author of “The Eating Disorder Clinical Pocket Guide” and “Eating Disorders Boot Camp”, and she is a co-founder of IFEED, the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians. In 2013, after 16 years of hospital and community work, Jessica closed her private practice to fulfill her mission of educating health professionals about our current understanding of eating disorders and thereby empowering them to confidently and competently help those who suffer. In all of her work, Jessica combines humor, science, and professional experience to help us all improve one of the key relationships in life—the one we have with food.
Today, you’ll hear Jessica talk about:
– How she related to food and her body as a child
– What drove her to get a degree in Anthropology as well as one in Sports Nutrition
– What she learned about people’s eating behaviors
– Why there is always a reason for the way we relate to food
– Why the oldest emotional wounds often have the deepest imprint on our soul
– Why we are so often attracted to people who end up treating us like our fathers or mothers did
– Why we can only recognize as love what we grew up to believe was love
– What we hope to achieve by re-creating our childhood “drama”
– Why our habits very often evolved as way to self-soothe, at a stage when the particular behavior was the only way we knew how to deal with difficult experiences
– Why there is no need to be ashamed for recognizing those behaviors for what they are
– What our own judgments can tell us about ourselves
– Why our society is too quick to categorize people in their particular problems, and how to look at eating disorders from an individual’s perspective
– Why it can be the most powerful thing to just be present with someone who’s currently struggling
– What the advantages are for recovering from disordered eating as an adult, no matter how long their behaviors have been disordered
– Why it is never too late to start un-dieting, recovering, and befriending food and our body again
– How early in life we get conditioned to detach our eating from our internal cues
– What she wants us all to know about our bodies
– Why it’s important to remind ourselves who’s profiting off our insecurities
– How weight-bias in the medical field can cause people to die
– The medical ramifications of our society’s belief that “healthy” looks a certain way
– What’s dangerous about our society’s unhealthy coupling of the concepts of food and exercise
– Why our controlling tendencies can only give us a false sense of safety
– How little is actually known about eating disorders
– What an ideal eating disorder professional should bring to the table
– What she means when she says “start being an anthropologist in everyday life” and why it is so helpful
– The danger of repeated exposure to seemingly harmless advertisements
– How to see the ridiculousness of the made-up/fake-advertisement world
– Why awareness (and self-awareness!) is key on the journey of growing more resilient
– What she thinks about the memes that tell us to “love our bodies”…
… And so much more!

Check out Jessica’s website:
http://www.understandingnutrition.com

Find more info about the “Eating Disorder Bootcamp” and other resources here:
http://www.understandingnutrition.com/store/default.php
http://www.eatingdisordersbootcamp.com

If you enjoy and love my podcast, please consider supporting it by becoming a “Patreon”! It would greatly help me to keep those episodes coming to you. Thanks!
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LU 045: Carolyn Costin – What recovery means & why undiagnosed eating issues can be the worst.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I am talking to Carolyn Costin from Malibu, California.

Carolyn is a world-renowned clinician, author and speaker acclaimed for her expertise, passion and accomplishments in the field of eating disorders. She is a certified Eating Disorder Specialist and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. After having recovered from anorexia in her early 20s, Carolyn became a psychotherapist, and it was her successful treatment of those with eating disorders that led her to bring her philosophy to the public through her speaking and her books. In 1996, Carolyn created “Monte Nido”, the first licensed, residential eating disorder treatment facility in a home setting that has since spurred into 14 facilities nationwide offering a continuum of care. Carolyn’s career is dedicated to lecturing, training, teaching and supervising clinicians, dietitians and physicians. Having left “Monde Nido” last year, she remains active in the eating disorder field and she is involved in several professional organizations including the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals as a board trustee and the Academy of Eating Disorders as a fellow. Her advocacy work continues in many arenas including organizations such as Project Heal, Eating Disorder Hope and the Eating Disorder Coalition. At the start of this year, 2017, Carolyn has opened “The Carolyn Costin Institute”, which offers Eating Disorder Coach Training, a mentor program, continuing education for clinicians as well as other specialized training. Carolyn talks about:
– How long the carefree, joyful feeling of “being in a body” as a child lasted for her
– How our habits of comparison and our ideas of “status” are detrimental to body image
– What the “Fiji-study” is all about, and what TV/advertisement can do to women
– What body-bullying does to kids
– What triggered her eating disorder
– Why she doesn’t support the idea that eating issues are “a genetic thing”
– How people with anxiety can calm their anxious thoughts
– Why it is so important to become aware of the fact that we are NOT our thoughts, but we can observe them, and let them pass without grabbing on to their message
– Why spiritual bypassing is not solving anything, yet so many people try to do just that; avoid difficult emotions by trying to meditate them away instead of facing them in a calm state
– What there is still to be fixed in our cultural way of relating to weight and bodies
– Why eating disorder treatments that still have a weight-centric approach often backfire and make a full, lasting recovery impossible
– Why it is so important for all of us to just detach from the number on the scale
– Why it is critically important that everyone working with people with disordered eating resolve their own body- and weight issues first
– How she trains therapists and coaches to become good eating disorder therapists
– What it actually is that makes a good eating disorder therapist/coach/mentor/dietitian
– How she defines „recovery“
– Why people with undiagnosed eating issues can often be the ones that are the sickest
– The danger of today’s obsession with “clean” eating, detoxes, the idea of having to earn or burn food, and all the food advice out there
– Why she thinks people still go on diets even if it is a well-established facts that diets don’t work
– The horrible consequences of fat-shaming people
– How the weight-loss industry (together with the advertisement “geniuses”) manage to suck so many people in, again and again
– The risk factors of developing an eating disorder
– Why eating disorders still often don’t get addressed at schools, even though the numbers are rampant
– Why she made it her mission to train recovered people to become eating disorder coaches
– Why a feeling of secure attachment is critical to overcome any issues we might have developed to protect ourselves or to cope with difficult feelings…

… And so much more!

If you are interested in Carolyn Costin’s work, check out her website:
http://www.carolyn-costin.com

Here’s the link to Carolyn’s books:
https://www.amazon.com/Carolyn-Costin/e/B001HCYYJ8

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LU 043: Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld – Today’s body-obsessed culture promotes disordered eating.



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This week on the the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, we all have a chance to meet Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld from Coral Gables, Florida.

Stacey is a clinical psychologist specializing in eating disorders and body image concerns. She also works with substance misuse, anxiety and mood disorders, infertility, and relationship difficulties. A certified group psychotherapist and certified eating disorder specialist, Dr. Rosenfeld has worked at various treatment centers and universities and now directs the “Gatewell Therapy Center” in Miami, Florida. Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld is the author of “Does Every Woman Have an Eating Disorder? Challenging Our Nation’s Fixation with Food and Weight”, based on her award-winning blog of the same name. She is committing to helping people develop healthier relationships with food and their bodies. She is a member of the National Eating Disorder Association, the International Association for Eating Disorder Professionals, and the Academy for Eating Disorders, she lectures around the country, and she has appeared on numerous media outlets, including the Today Show and ABC News.
In this talk, Stacey shares with us:
– When her first judgment about her body entered her mind
– What she found out in all of her years of clinical work with regards to women and eating issues
– What the terrible consequences can be of the myopic depiction of eating disorders in the media
– Why people so often deny having a troublesome relationship to food, weight and exercise
– What she has to say to those people who are “waiting” for the symptoms to go away as they age
– What defines disordered eating, eating disorders and a compulsive relationship to exercise
– The different ways in which she sees the display of disordered eating
– How she uses motivational interviewing with her patients
– Why it is that eating issues often go unaddressed in therapy, and the cost of that
– What it is that connects eating issues with alcohol and/or substance misuse
– What is wrong with the increasingly thoughtless prescription of (speed-like) drug for ADHD
– Why bodies break down when they are pushed to the limit, be it with exercise/drugs/etc.
– What a person with an addiction is trying to get away from
– How everything can be used to self-medicate, but sadly, some of those behaviors even get applause (work/exercise/perfectionism/restriction), no matter how hellish the person might feel inside
– Why we don’t really want to be accepted for a facade-like life, but our real selves, warts and all
– What happens when women start asking themselves what they could be doing with all the mental and physical energy wasted on “managing their appearance” (diets/exercise/surgeries, etc.)
– What she means when she says “women are zoomed in way too much”
– Why the concept of exercise and the concept of food should be divorced to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and obsessive behaviors
– Why the fitness classes she teaches are different than the usual ones
– How we can let go of exercising compulsively and reframe “success”
– How to become a more critical consumer of media instead of getting sucked in by its toxic messages about bodies
– Why language (towards ourselves and other people) is so important
– Which of her findings should really shake us all awake to how much this general “fear of fat” is holding us back
– How to recognize if a professional who specializes in eating disorders still has their own issues and biases…

… And so much more!

Check out Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld’s website:
http://www.gatewelltherapycenter.com

Here’s the link to her book “Does Every Woman Have An Eating Disorder?”:
https://www.amazon.com/Eating-Disorder-Challenging-Nations-Fixation/dp/0989851834

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LU 037: Beth Rosen – Life is for living, and food is for eating; here’s how she does it.


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This week, on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, we all have a chance to meet Beth Rosen.

Beth is a Registered Dietitian in private practice in Southbury (Connecticut, USA) and virtually everywhere else. She subscribes to a non-diet philosophy to wellness and is a Health At Every Size® practitioner. Beth has an undergraduate degree in Dietetics, and a Master’s degree from Columbia University in New York City in Nutrition Education. She has been a Registered Dietitian for over 20 years. Currently, she works with chronic dieters who are struggling with the vicious cycle of dieting to ditch all diets, learn to eat fearlessly through self-regulation and Intuitive Eating principles, and respect and care for their bodies. As someone who knows how it is to live with serious food intolerances, she loves sharing recipes and food ideas for joyful eating. Being a mother, she also writes about parenting, sustainable living, gardening and crafting. In this talk, Beth shares with us:
– How she was taught to feel about her body
– How her mother’s (and grandmother’s) relationship to food and weight got passed on to her
– How dieting became the “normal thing to do” for her
– How her brothers were affected by her mother’s obsession with thinness
– How she learned that girls “bonded” through body-hatred and diet-talk
– How diets mess with our body’s signals in a harmful way
– What kind of people she met in her studies to become a Registered Dietitian
– That – disturbingly! – even people with full-blown eating disorders were allowed to take these courses
– Why what is being taught at nutrition school is always to be taken with a grain of salt
– Why she made herself a disservice by following the advice she learned at nutrition school
– Why all foods – fun-foods included! – are important
– How the “stocking”-method words to get over the fear of certain foods
– How she remembers the moment she herself snapped out of her diet-obsession
– How her “way out” looked like when she decided to leave diet-culture behind
– What traps she fell into when she started intuitive eating
– What keeps us from actually letting dieting go, even if we know that it’s imprisoning us
– How to create new, better inner self-talk
– What it takes to make a new habit – like positive self-talk/not dieting – stick
– Why it is so important to separate the negative voice from ourselves and personalize it
– Why dealing with body image issues before motherhood is so crucially important
– How she made sure that she passes on a positive or at least neutral body image…

… And so much more!

Check out Beth’s website:
http://www.goodnessgraciousliving.com

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LU 036: Judith Matz – How the diet-/binge cycle works and what it takes to break free from it.



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Lovely radicals, it’s show time again!

This week, it’s my honor to welcome Judith Matz to the podcast.

Judith is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 25 years of experience as a therapist who helps people make peace with food, their bodies, and themselves. As someone who knows the struggle of feeling out of control around food, she now specializes in the treatment of Binge Eating Disorder and compulsive eating. Judith is the director of the “Chicago Center for Overcoming Overeating”, an organization dedicated to ending the preoccupation with food and weight through educational programs and workshops. She also loves public speaking and frequently presents at local and national conferences and meetings. Judith also is the co-author of two acclaimed books for adults called: “Beyond a Shadow of a Diet” and “The Diet Survivors Handbook” as well as a book on body image for kids called “Amanda’s Big Dream”. Her work has appeared in countless media outlets, and today, here she is!
Judith tells us:
– How she remembers being in a body in her pre-teen years
– How her family related to food and body
– Why her body image plummeted in high school
– How she learned that girls “bonded” through body-hatred and diet-talk
– What she experienced in the years she was restricting in order to “fix her body”
– What made her realize that it was restriction that messed with her once-normal relationship with food
– How the false promise of diets keeps people trapped in the same cycle
– What we are avoiding by making everything about our body’s size and its weight
– How to approach the journey towards self-acceptance and body acceptance
– Why this healing work is so worth it
– How she helps the many, many health professionals, nutritionists and personal trainers who are struggling themselves and unwillingly pass on their biases
– How the diet-binge cycle works and why it takes courage to break free from it and actually empower ourselves
– How you can tell if someone is dieting (no matter what they might call it to make it sound like they are not)
– Why there is often so much resistance when we tell them that diets are harmful
– How to find out what to do instead of dieting
– What she teaches parents about how to address body, food and weight
– What the research on the bodies of identical twins says in relation to diets
– Why you simply can not tell a person’s health by looking at their body
– How to re-learn eating after a lifetime of dieting and restricting
– How to switch to a kinder way of talking to ourselves…
– Why self-compassion and patience are pivotal in healing our body image and how we relate to food and weight…

… And so much more!

Check out Judith’s website:
http://www.judithmatz.com

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LU 034: Anne Poirier – No more compulsive exercise: How to break the chains of “being the fit one”.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I’m talking to Anne Poirier.

Anne is the new program director at Green Mountain At Fox Run in Ludlow, Vermont. Green Mountain is a non-diet mind and body wellness center that offers retreats for women who want to start the journey back from years of dieting, body shame, weight-obsession and food fears. They re-learn to enjoy food again, and re-learn to move in a way that brings joy, and has nothing to do with food, calories or punishment. Anne was a fitness trainer for 30 years, battling her own body-shame-demons, and she came to the realization that the fitness industry is – sadly! – making many people less healthy, instead of more. She saw, time and time again, that the same people she had been helping to lose weight through diet and exercise, were coming back to her, after they had gained the weight back, feeling frustrated, depressed and convinced that they had failed. At the same time – unbeknownst to her clients – this same cycle was happening to her as well. Even though she did everything to look like the usual fitness professional, even though she tried modeling a “good way of eating”, and “exercising harder” than others, she finally came to see that this was no way of living, as it really leaves everyone trapped in a vicious, painful cycle, and that it is time to think about sustainability and enjoyment again. Listen to Anne tell us:
– How her mother related to food
– How early she internalized the idea that her body was something to be fixed
– How quickly this idea led her to anorexia
– Why she resisted to be treated
– How her anorexia eventually morphed into exercise bulimia
– How her eating disorder made influenced her decision to go into exercise science in college
– How she managed to hide her eating disorder in her athleticism for years
– How she – for years – tried to find her identity behind labels like “fit”, “strong” or “skinny”
– Why her two pregnancies were the only time she remembers feeling free around food
– How the disorder popped right back up after she gave birth
– How her profession kept feeding her eating disorder, and why she wasn’t even really aware of it
– How exercise is a legit addiction like any other
– What kind of issues and pain we are numbing out from by exercising compulsively
– What the biggest hurdle is for many people when they are tackling their exercise obsession
– How we can reframe how we think about our bodies towards a more realistic, grateful body image
– How painful it is to realize that she lived like that until she was almost 50 years old, too afraid to let go
– Why it was that only when her body started to break down that she started waking up
– How a forced break from exercise turned out to be the first step towards real healing
– How suddenly she discovered a life beyond fitness and training and weight-suppressing
– How she dealt with her changing weight
– Why “Drums Alive” turned out to be a real game-changer for her in terms of exercise
– Why it’s never wise to compare our insides to other people’s outsides
– Why some people have to hit rock bottom before they start to see that they don’t really want to live life presenting a facade that isn’t even them
– How she now sees clearly how she was desperately trying to “be someone special” all her life and how she lost herself in that for a long time
– How she describes her life from, say, five years ago, compared to her life now
– What her focus is in her work as program director at Green Mountain At Fox Run…
… And so much more!

Check out the wonderful Green Mountain website:
http://www.greenmountainatfoxrun.com
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LU 032: Diane Summers – There is hope for healing and achieving a life free from body issues.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to bring to you a fellow size-acceptance fighter: Diane Summers from Everett, Washington.

Diane is a nationally registered and state certified dietitian with extensive experience treating eating disorders at all levels of care. Diane has been involved in the awareness, prevention and treatment of eating disorders for more than 10 years, and has treated hundreds and hundreds of people of all ages and across the entire spectrum of eating disorders and eating issues. She is recognized as a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian through the international Association of Eating Disorder Professionals for her expertise in treating eating disorders and training other professionals in the treatment of eating disorders. She is also a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. Diane has presented at local and national conferences, schools, universities, clinics, and church groups.
Today, you’ll hear Diane talk about:
– How her parents feed her as a child and why she is extremely grateful for that
– What her emotional difficulties looked like as an “army kid”
– The ways in which her body image suffered in her adolescence
– Why she felt like “the odd one out” as a nutritionist
– What it was that made her question the diet-y ideas she got taught in nutrition school
– The reason why she got interested in working with eating disorders
– Why eating disorder treatments so often fail
– Why we are often unaware of our internal “size-ism” and how to bring that into awareness
– What it would take to make treatment success stories improve tremendously
– What she teaches her clients about weight-discrimination
– How we can smartly respond to body-shaming/food-shaming comments
– Why we should all abstain from making ANY comments on bodies, whether good or bad
– Why not just “the very thin”, but also a person in a bigger body might show signs of anorexia
– How a session with her could look like
– What it is that is way more telling if someone has disordered eating or an eating disorder than the actual weight
– What makes the diet-mentality so hard to break free from
– What people with disordered eating and eating disorders have in common
– Why the role of parents is crucially important in the development of a child’s body image
– How it is never really about food or weight, once the layers of the struggles are being worked through
– Why what the media presents us in terms of post-menopausal women is a legitimate set-up for body-wars
– Why weight-gain after menopause is the best life-protection for you…

… And so much more!

Check out Diane’s website:
http://www.hopenutritiontherapy.com

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LU 030: Marsha Hudnall – Helping women find body-peace and a full life after an eating disorder.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Marsha Hudnall from Ludlow, Vermont. Marsha is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, and she really has been a voice of reason and a thought leader for the last three decades in helping women move away from restrictive notions of food and health.

Ever since 1986, Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run, the Vermont women’s retreat that pioneered the non-diet approach to health and weight. She now serves as president and co-owner, and she is passionate about all of her work. She is an accomplished writer who has written hundreds of articles for popular magazines, and professional journals and has worked extensively to educate the public about nutrition and about the impact of dieting and the internal diet-mentality that drives our eating behaviors and obsession with weight. Marsha is also the president of the Center For Mindful Eating and a former board member of the Binge Eating Disorder Association.
Listen in as Marsha talks about:
– What it was the set the stage for her quest for thinness
– How her mother’s body image and diet-obsession influenced her
– Why her personality type is typical for a person with an eating disorder
– What perfectionism has to do with eating disorders
– Why she never talked about her bulimia to anyone
– How her bulimia has affected her health long-term
– How restriction exacerbates any food-issues and causes food-obsession
– What the diet-industry has taken from our experience of “eating”
– Why that diet-mentality-induced guilt for eating created so many problems
– Why she became a dietitian
– What the steps to her healing looked like
– Why Green Mountain At Fox Run literally changed her life
– How her husband’s mother became the pioneer in the non-diet approach
– What the non-diet approach is REALLY about
– How best to move away from body-hate
– Why having a community and supporting each other can make all the difference
– Why accepting size-diversity is the key to self-acceptance
– How she introduces the concept of Health At Every Size to women who haven’t heard of it before
– What she means when she talks about structure around eating (it’s not what you think)
– Why eating fun-foods is very much part of a “normal” eating routine
– Why sugar addiction is nothing but another misleading marketing tactic
– How we can overcome those feelings of “addiction” with food
– What kind of feelings and thoughts people are trying to cope with by obsessing over food and weight
– How she deals with difficult feelings
– What makes community the key ingredient to healing for people…

… And so much more!

Check out Marsha here:
http://www.greatmountainatfoxrun.com

The Green Mountain At Fox Run Facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/GreenMountainAtFoxRun/?fref=ts
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LU 027: Thom Rutledge – Confronting the “inner Gremlin voice” and learning how to disobey it.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Thom Rutledge from Nashville. Thom is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, author and speaker, who has experienced both sides of the therapeutic relationship; as a clinician and as a client. He blends his personal recovery from depression, addiction and excessive self-criticism with 30 years of professional experience to guide his clients, readers, and audiences from self-judgment and perfectionism toward genuine self-compassion.

He’s the author of several books like “Embracing Fear”, “Earning Your Own Respect” and “The Greater Possibilities“, and he has co-written “Life Without ED” (ED meaning Eating Disorder) with Jenni Schaefer. Thom’s trademark sense of humor, a down-to-earth practicality, and his own compassion are the common threads than run through his unique brand of psychology. Thom will tell us:
– How contributing to a bestseller about eating disorders led to him specializing in eating disorder treatment
– How he as a recovering alcoholic (who’s been sober for 30 years) can relate to people with eating disorders and disordered eating
– Where he sees the familiarity between eating disorders and alcoholism
– Why eating disorders are often more difficult to recover from than alcohol addiction
– Why he asks his clients about their relationship to fear
– Why there often are existential fears underneath eating issues
– What his intra-personal therapy model consists of
– Why trust is such a crucial part of eating disorder therapy
– How we can separate our fear voice (inner Gremlin/inner bully) from our healthy voice (recovery voice)
– Why it is normal to often have different feelings or even opinions about things in life
– How clever our inner Gremlins are and how they trick us
– How this inner Gremlin actually manages to scare us into paralysis
– Why the inner Gremlin is a synonym for catastrophic thinking
– Why we should never expect to be able to fully rid ourselves of those inner bullies
– Why we can only learn to deal with them when we first start to listen to what it actually says
– Why it helps to ask ourselves how much of what this inner Gremlin predicts has ever really happened
– What we are really afraid of when we say “we are afraid of weight-gain”
– How he specifically works with my example
– Why rejecting and disobeying the inner Gremlin is the way to recovery
– Why in healing from bad body image and disordered eating it often gets worse before it gets better
– Why, when we have believed our inner Gremlin for decades, it often feels like shedding our old identity when we are on the way to becoming our true selves
– Why the inner Gremlin doesn’t get to use the “I” pronoun
– How to strengthen our inner, true recovery voice
– How we can become the real decision-makers in our own life
– How community and support play a pivotal role for our mental health
– Why he thinks the universe purposely designed us to be “forgetting machines”…

… And so much more!

Check out the Thom’s website to find out about his work and his books:
http://www.thomrutledge.com/
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LU 026: Melissa Toler – Bring sanity back to the way you eat, train and look at yourself.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Melissa Toler, from Maryland, close to Washington DC.

She is a certified health and wellness coach, speaker and writer, with a background as a pharmacist who offers a non-diet, weight-neutral health approach, and her goal is to help women connect the dots between our culture’s ridiculous beauty standards and our personal struggle with self-acceptance. She helps women unlearn the toxic messages and behaviors from lifelong dieting so they can learn a new set of skills and live a life free from obsession and self-loathing. Having a 25-year history with dieting herself, she knows personally what it means to be stuck in the diet-binge-cycle. She came to sanity a few years ago, and she says it was one of the best decisions she has ever made. I believe her. Melissa also teaches workshops and courses to help people on the path to improving their body image. We will all get some of here awesomeness in this episode!
Listen to Melissa talk about:
– Where she got the message that her body was “not good enough”
– What the moment was where she internalized the belief that she needed to change her body
– Why she got stuck in this well-known hell of weight-suppression, dieting and overexercising for so long
– What it was that made her wake up and learn to listen to her own body again
– What helped her to question her own thinking and see behind the mechanism of diet-culture and how much money is being made by making women feel “less than”
– Why it literally pays off to be hypercritical of media’s, TV’s and magazines’ messages
– Why by buying beauty/women’s magazines and diet books/products, we vote “yes” to our oppression with our own money
– Why we all need other people to help wake us up to what we have gotten so used to that we never stop to question it
– Why it is always a good idea to be suspicious of the words “body positive” or “empowered woman”, especially as it is being viciously co-opted by diet-culture these days
– What TRUE empowerment means
– What proved to be most helpful on her way out of constant dieting
– How she helps women re-connect to their true selves – How we can learn and implement the skill of self-compassion even when it sounds weird at first
– How we can start questioning our thoughts with curiosity instead of judgment
– How to decode what’s behind it when the “urge” to go on a diet comes up
– How we can stop the diet-thoughts from influencing our decisions
– How she helps her clients see where they have been mislead into “false” thinking about themselves being “not good enough”, and who profits off of that
– How much precious time in a person’s life can literally be wasted by getting stuck in diet-land, being preoccupied by weight-loss, body-negativity and obsession
– Why a person’s size never tells us anything about their health and the dangers of equating “thin” to “healthy”
– Why it is important to understand the sinister mechanism of diet-culture and how this can help us stepping out of old beliefs
– Why stepping out of diet culture is a truly radical move…

… And so much more!

Check out Melissa’s work:
http://www.melissatoler.com

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Hasta la vista, sad old New Year’s resolutions! Voilà: Better ideas to start a new year/week/day with.

Hey, lovely radicals!

Thank you all for your wonderful feedback for my last podcast episode on marketing literacy and better ideas for New Year’s resolutions. The responses have made my eyes swim.

A lot of you have asked for a written version as a handy reminder. Great idea!
(I’ll make it two posts, though, for length-reasons. Let’s tackle the resolutions first.)

Tadaaaa! January—the international month of mass-dieting—is ahead.
So here it comes thundering in again, the usual tsunami of the same old, diet-y New Year’s resolutions. What a biiiig surprise (yawn): Only 243’039’472 differently packaged versions of
“Just do THIS and happiness is yours!” Did you notice? All they are is a serving of “copy-paste” from last year, the year before, and the many years before that!—Some new products, some new gadgets… but the same crap all over: The message that we need to fix ourselves to be acceptable and—conveniently attached to it—any number of ideas how to go about that.

Enough already!

Sadly, they still get clicks. In fact, the more weight-loss-promising they are, the more clicks they get. That only shows how successfully the idea that “thin is better” has been marketed to us over the past decades.
After all the different ways this idea has been presented to us—anything from “Heroin-chic” to “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” to “Fitspo”, including the viciously spreading trend “Healthy is the new skinny”—millions of people have now come to believe that “healthy” has a LOOK! That “healthy” has a number on the scale.
(—How convenient for disordered eaters to hide their weight-loss-obsession behind: “Oh, I just want to be healthy!”)
People are now subscribing to ideas of clean eating, believing that this is the magic bullet to health, even if it often leads them into very dark rabbit holes of orthorexia and—funny, huh?—very unhealthy states. Sadly, this trend is rampant and turns women and girls into obsessed, rule-based, fearful, compulsive eaters that are anything BUT healthy or happy.
(Needless to say that if all of these trends didn’t promise some sort of weight-loss, we wouldn’t be as obsessed and clinging to all the ways “health” is now being marketed to us:
Cleanses, Paleo, Raw, Clean Eating, Multi-Level-Marketing schemes like “Beach Body” and all its nasty cousins, any number of weight-loss-challenges, and the gazillion of differently wrapped ideas that keep creeping into our feeds and burn themselves on to our already compromised hard drives.)

When all that matters is how we look and how others perceive us, we end up giving up our power and we end up ready and willing to try everything, no matter the cost.
Now matter how UN-healthy and miserable it makes us.

So. New Year’s resolutions.
Really?

Let me gently open the lid of my internal garbage grinder and enjoy the lovely sound of all of those little bastards being torn to shreds.

Aaaaaaah. Relief.
And now that the table is clear, let’s rewrite that script, shall we?
So, for the fun of it, as an emergency backup or just for inspiration, let’s create some NEW, sustainable, kind, game-changing New Year’s resolutions.
Well.
Since everything in our life has been about “have to“s and “gotta get to“s, “should“s and “no more“s—and we’ve all been running ourselves into the ground with these—THIS time, we’re going to abandon that sinking self-flagellation ship and make our list about PERMISSION. (Yep. The thing we think about least.)

Here are some of my ideas for now and forever after; take as many as you wish!

Some last words before I go:
You have permission to just be you, and to try to be as kind to yourself as you can.
We all deserve more freedom and joy, and this is a good time to allow some of that in, instead of opening the door to mood-darkening messages and self-defeating thoughts.

You deserve it.

You matter.

—And to prevent any sort of diet-mentality from creeping back into our minds after New Years Eve, you can count on me; I’ll be back January 2, with a new podcast episode with a wonderful guest who knows everything about kindness, especially when it comes to how we live with our bodies.
Good stuff is coming your way, radicals.
See you on the other side!

Love,
Meret.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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LU 022: Lauren Anton – Reconnect with your body’s innate wisdom and let go of societal rules.



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Hey, lovely radicals. Podcast time!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, you’re going to hear Lauren Anton from Culver City, California.

Lauren is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Personal Trainer specializing in eating disorders and sports nutrition. She is the owner of “Arrive: Nutrition, Movement, Life”. She has years of experience working at Eating Disorders Treatment facilities, in most levels of care, from Residential Treatment to Intensive Outpatient Treatment. She helps people who struggle with weight, food and exercise. Her goal is to assist her clients in moving away from a punitive experience with food and movement to one of self-compassion and self-care. Her non-diet, Health At Every Size approach allows people to break free from the chains of rules they have set for themselves that don’t serve them anymore, and she helps to guide them to an understanding of how their relationship to food, exercise and emotions are influencing each-other and their bodies. Lauren has spoken at numerous national conferences and events on eating disorders and sports nutrition.
Today, Lauren will tell us:
– What her earliest memory is of relating to bodies
– How her mother’s restriction of snacks led to her binging on them secretly
– Why she forced herself to become an athlete “against” her true inner will
– What she sees when she looks at pictures of herself as a teenager, back when she was convinced she was fat
– Why many women with anorexia don’t “look anorexic” and won’t get the help they need as long as doctors rely on something bogus like the BMI
– What her advice is for all the parents out there who are dealing with doctors commenting on their child’s weight
– What kind of experiences and comments made her develop a bad body image
– Why her obsession with body and body image was centered around athleticism
– How she learned to ignore her body’s signals just to be accepted as an athlete
– Why focusing on the shapes and sizes of bodies isn’t helpful in sports, and what we should be focusing on instead
– Why it is important to know and expect that giving up coping mechanisms like dieting or overexercising is going to bring up anxiety
– Why people who exercise compulsively or engage in other disordered eating behaviors won’t heal if they “wait until they feel ready”
– Why she thinks many people have to rock bottom until they allow themselves to change their lifestyle and finally heal
– What her own rock bottom was
– What kind of questions we can ask ourselves when we are tempted to fall back into old habits of weight-obsessing…
… And so much more!

 

Check out Lauren’s (brand new!) website and find out about her coaching business at:
http://www.arrivenutrition.com

 

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LU 013: Chris Cole – A man makes peace with his body, mind, spirit and food.



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In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Chris Cole from Boulder, Colorado. Chris is a life coach and works with clients in recovery from any number of addictions, mood or behavioral issues. He has been through quite a journey himself. In fact, it was such a rollercoaster ride that he wrote a book about it: It’s called “The Body Of Chris – a Memoir of Obsession, Addiction and Madness”.

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Chris is a highly compassionate, positive force that helps people find their truth and their unique healing by offering an experienced perspective, a radical wellness orientation and an encouraging relationship that is crucial to sustainable growth. Listen in and hear Chris’ amazing story:
– What factors contributed to him feeling ashamed of his body in childhood
– Why early restriction only exacerbated his difficult relationship to food
– How being bullied and fat-shamed as a boy made him obsessed with losing weight
– How he learned to binge eat and the real danger of the concept of “cheat meals”
– How a personal trainer introduced him to diet-pills
– Why he didn’t realize the harm of them and quickly got hooked
– Why these “speedy” diet-pills turned out to be a gateway drug for him
– How his obsession with becoming thinner escalated into a whole range of problems
– When and how it became obvious for him and those around him that he was really sick
– What kind of harmful behaviors and habits contributed to his manic episode in college
– How manic episodes of psychosis typically present themselves and what it felt like for him
– How his deep body shame manifested in this peak moment of crisis
– Why his book is called “The Body of Chris”
– Why he is very passionate when talking about “The tragedy of the BMI”
– How he now sees that his alcohol/drug addictions are connected to his history of body shame and disordered eating as well as to his bipolar disorder
– Why he felt he had to numb out his sensitive nature
– What made him have liposuction at 17 and why that didn’t help him feel better about himself
– Why his body shame was the last and biggest hurdle on his road to full recovery
– Why he thinks recovery from any sort of destructive behavior is only the first step to dealing with the deeper problem that we tried to numb out from
– How vulnerability with his then-future-wife helped him take the necessary steps
– Why intuitive eating was so hard for him to learn
– How he deals with the messages that our weight-obsessed culture, TV and movies throw at us
– How meditation taught him to deal with his thoughts
– Why his current profile picture on Facebook represents what recovery looks like to him
– What having a body means to him these days and how he appreciates it, flaws and all…

… And so much more!

Check out Chris Cole and his coaching over at:
http://www.colecoaching.com
Here’s the link to Chris’ wonderful book “The Body Of Chris”:
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Chris-Obsession-Addiction-Madness/dp/1941758142/

 

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LU 008: Vania Phitidis – Feeling peaceful around food and your body (+ some instant therapy)



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My friend, how nice to see you are tuning back in!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Vania Phitidis from Sussex, Great Britain. Vania is an Intuitive Eating Counsellor, an MB-EAT teacher, MB-EAT being the acronym for Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training) as well as a Self Esteem Mentor. She has a master in Education for Sustainability from London South Bank and a Bachelor degree in Psychology and Art history from VITS.

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In order to resolve her own body image issues and eating disorders she found that she had to let go of 5 things. 1 – unrealistic expectations of herself, 2 dieting, 3 restricting particular foods, 4 trying to get and stay skinny and 5 attempting to be perfect. Sounds easy, but was a lifelong process that she will tell us about. What she is focused on nowadays is being her most powerful self and helping others to enhance the quality of their own life and make better use of it than eternally dieting. For me, it’s vulnerability time today… In this episode, Vania Phitidis doesn’t just show us how we can let go of our food and weight fears and approach health from a sane and loving perspective. But she uses me as an example… and questions my inner gremlin voice. Find out how that turns out! So, listen in and hear Vania tell us her story:
– How early it got into her head that women should „lose weight“
– How quick children are to copy what they see their mothers do
– What made her develop bulimia and how bad that got for her
– Why giving up bulimia didn’t change anything on a mental level
– Why she subsequently got stuck in dieting and being constantly worried about her weight
– Why it is that diets (or “lifestyle changes” where weight-loss is the goal!) DO NOT work
– Why we often do the worst thing for our body when we train too often and too hard.
– What it takes to overcome the eternally distracting quest for thinness
– How she overcame her internalized fear of weight gain
– How we can choose what we expose ourselves to
– How she learned that everyone, including herself, is inherently worthy
– Why women who stay obsessed by weight-loss and dieting are severely limiting their potential
– How she learned to calm her mind and catch the thoughts that kept her stuck
– How we can learn to question our beliefs and our thinking
– Why it is important to question what we believe is „true“, simply because we “always believed it”
– Why mindfulness is key on the path to self-acceptance and body-acceptance
– How mindfulness can help us become aware of our feelings and our spontaneous reactions
– Why she doesn’t advise anyone to shout back at the inner critic, and what to do instead
– Why she believes that Intuitive Eating is the only way to leave the days of “feeling crazy around food” behind
– Why the switch from dieting to Intuitive Eating takes a leap of faith and can be very challenging
– Why real progress in the direction of healing is not possible unless we work on our body image and our deep-rooted fat-phobia
– How she deals with people who engage in diet-talk, body-shaming and eternal weight-loss-talk bonding.
– What her mission in life is…

…And so much more!
Check out Vania Phitidis and her coaching over at:
http://www.peacefuleating.co.uk
Also find her group on Facebook “It’s not about the weight”

The book that opened her eyes on the oppressive nature of diet-culture:
Naomi Wolf: “The Beauty Myth”
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LU 003: Nicola Rinaldi – No period. Now what? Health issues from overexercise and too little food.



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Friends!
Welcome to the third episode of the Life. Unrestricted. Podcast!

In this episode, I talk to Nicola Rinaldi from Boston (USA) about her journey from losing her period – due to too much exercise and not enough food – to recovery, and in her case a beautiful family with three boys. The talks about how her love of exercise became unhealthy and how things really turned nasty when she also started dieting in order to lose “those ten pounds”. She came to regret that: She stopped menstruating and subsequently almost slipped into a full blown eating disorder. Fortunately, she was able to allow herself to get better: Her dreams of having a family of her own meant that she had to take care of herself. She exercised less, ate more and finally got her period back and started a family. She is passionate about helping women to see why their cycle is so important for their mood, their sleep, their bones and their overall health whether or not they want children of their own. She helped hundreds of women recover their periods and has only recently published her book “No period. Now What?”, a comprehensive guide to recovery for women who have lost their period. Nicola shares her insights on:
– What “Hypothalamic Amenorrhoea” (HA) is, what causes it and what the ramifications of it are
– How, when she lost her period more than 10 years ago, she had to do her own research to find out what was really happening
– How the Minnesota Starvation Experiment Study helped her regain her senses and start to recover
– How women are often misinformed when it comes to weight and pregnancy
– How it happens that we often think that we are doing the “healthy thing” when, in reality, we are damaging our health
– What “healthy exercise” is
– How we are often totally misguided when it comes to exercise and food
– How to recover a healthy menstrual cycle and keep up a non-diet lifestyle after birth
– How we can change our mindset from “fear of weight gain” to “becoming healthy and happy” again
– How we can snap out of our negative self-talk
– How we can start to change the conversation about the current, unnatural beauty ideal that we see
– How partners and husbands are often suffering when their girlfriends or wives get stuck in such a state of weight-obsession and exercise compulsion
– How they react to a woman regaining her full health and radiance, and how much they appreciate their natural bodies and relaxedness
– How she raises her three boys to become non-judgmental towards size and shape…

… And so much more!

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Check out Nicola Rinaldi and her new book “No period. Now what?” over at:
http://www.noperiodnowwhat.com
Or you can also visit her old blog right here:
http://www.noperiodbaby.com

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Meret.

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LU 002: Nicole Spencer – A brave journey from addictions and disorders back to life with yoga.



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Lovelies and loveliettes,
Welcome to episode TWO of the Life. Unrestricted. Podcast!

In this episode of the Life Unrestricted Podcast, I am talking to Nicole Spencer, a 49 year old life coach and Yoga Recovery teacher from Zurich, Switzerland. She shares with us her incredible journey from growing up as an anxious kid who developed OCD, later an eating disorder, exercise addiction, and, finally, severe alcoholism from which it took her a long time to fully recover. She reveals what really helped her on this often difficult healing process and how she maintains healthy boundaries and true stability. Initially a successful banker, she has now found her true passion in helping other people on their way to recovery from addictions and disorders, and to find their inner peace, more grounding as well as access to their true inner compass. She shares her best advice on:
– How, unless we treat the root cause of them, it’s highly likely that stopping an addiction will only cause another to appear and hurt us
– How we can cultivate more self-compassion
– How to de-stress in today’s constant sensory overload
– How to ground ourselves when things aren’t going as planned
– How to calm our monkey mind
– What it means to truly take care of ourselves…
… And so much more!

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Find Nicole and her boyfriend Michel are the creators of Yogaherz (Switzerland); you can find everything on:
http://www.yogaherz.ch/about-us-en.html
Nicole teaches great Yoga classes at Sanapurna in Zurich (Switzerland), all the infos are on:
http://www.sanapurna.ch

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