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LU 043: Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld – Today’s body-obsessed culture promotes disordered eating.



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This week on the the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, we all have a chance to meet Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld from Coral Gables, Florida.

Stacey is a clinical psychologist specializing in eating disorders and body image concerns. She also works with substance misuse, anxiety and mood disorders, infertility, and relationship difficulties. A certified group psychotherapist and certified eating disorder specialist, Dr. Rosenfeld has worked at various treatment centers and universities and now directs the “Gatewell Therapy Center” in Miami, Florida. Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld is the author of “Does Every Woman Have an Eating Disorder? Challenging Our Nation’s Fixation with Food and Weight”, based on her award-winning blog of the same name. She is committing to helping people develop healthier relationships with food and their bodies. She is a member of the National Eating Disorder Association, the International Association for Eating Disorder Professionals, and the Academy for Eating Disorders, she lectures around the country, and she has appeared on numerous media outlets, including the Today Show and ABC News.
In this talk, Stacey shares with us:
– When her first judgment about her body entered her mind
– What she found out in all of her years of clinical work with regards to women and eating issues
– What the terrible consequences can be of the myopic depiction of eating disorders in the media
– Why people so often deny having a troublesome relationship to food, weight and exercise
– What she has to say to those people who are “waiting” for the symptoms to go away as they age
– What defines disordered eating, eating disorders and a compulsive relationship to exercise
– The different ways in which she sees the display of disordered eating
– How she uses motivational interviewing with her patients
– Why it is that eating issues often go unaddressed in therapy, and the cost of that
– What it is that connects eating issues with alcohol and/or substance misuse
– What is wrong with the increasingly thoughtless prescription of (speed-like) drug for ADHD
– Why bodies break down when they are pushed to the limit, be it with exercise/drugs/etc.
– What a person with an addiction is trying to get away from
– How everything can be used to self-medicate, but sadly, some of those behaviors even get applause (work/exercise/perfectionism/restriction), no matter how hellish the person might feel inside
– Why we don’t really want to be accepted for a facade-like life, but our real selves, warts and all
– What happens when women start asking themselves what they could be doing with all the mental and physical energy wasted on “managing their appearance” (diets/exercise/surgeries, etc.)
– What she means when she says “women are zoomed in way too much”
– Why the concept of exercise and the concept of food should be divorced to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms and obsessive behaviors
– Why the fitness classes she teaches are different than the usual ones
– How we can let go of exercising compulsively and reframe “success”
– How to become a more critical consumer of media instead of getting sucked in by its toxic messages about bodies
– Why language (towards ourselves and other people) is so important
– Which of her findings should really shake us all awake to how much this general “fear of fat” is holding us back
– How to recognize if a professional who specializes in eating disorders still has their own issues and biases…

… And so much more!

Check out Dr. Stacey Rosenfeld’s website:
http://www.gatewelltherapycenter.com

Here’s the link to her book “Does Every Woman Have An Eating Disorder?”:
https://www.amazon.com/Eating-Disorder-Challenging-Nations-Fixation/dp/0989851834

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LU 037: Beth Rosen – Life is for living, and food is for eating; here’s how she does it.


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Lovely radicals, podcast joy ahead…!

This week, on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, we all have a chance to meet Beth Rosen.

Beth is a Registered Dietitian in private practice in Southbury (Connecticut, USA) and virtually everywhere else. She subscribes to a non-diet philosophy to wellness and is a Health At Every Size® practitioner. Beth has an undergraduate degree in Dietetics, and a Master’s degree from Columbia University in New York City in Nutrition Education. She has been a Registered Dietitian for over 20 years. Currently, she works with chronic dieters who are struggling with the vicious cycle of dieting to ditch all diets, learn to eat fearlessly through self-regulation and Intuitive Eating principles, and respect and care for their bodies. As someone who knows how it is to live with serious food intolerances, she loves sharing recipes and food ideas for joyful eating. Being a mother, she also writes about parenting, sustainable living, gardening and crafting. In this talk, Beth shares with us:
– How she was taught to feel about her body
– How her mother’s (and grandmother’s) relationship to food and weight got passed on to her
– How dieting became the “normal thing to do” for her
– How her brothers were affected by her mother’s obsession with thinness
– How she learned that girls “bonded” through body-hatred and diet-talk
– How diets mess with our body’s signals in a harmful way
– What kind of people she met in her studies to become a Registered Dietitian
– That – disturbingly! – even people with full-blown eating disorders were allowed to take these courses
– Why what is being taught at nutrition school is always to be taken with a grain of salt
– Why she made herself a disservice by following the advice she learned at nutrition school
– Why all foods – fun-foods included! – are important
– How the “stocking”-method words to get over the fear of certain foods
– How she remembers the moment she herself snapped out of her diet-obsession
– How her “way out” looked like when she decided to leave diet-culture behind
– What traps she fell into when she started intuitive eating
– What keeps us from actually letting dieting go, even if we know that it’s imprisoning us
– How to create new, better inner self-talk
– What it takes to make a new habit – like positive self-talk/not dieting – stick
– Why it is so important to separate the negative voice from ourselves and personalize it
– Why dealing with body image issues before motherhood is so crucially important
– How she made sure that she passes on a positive or at least neutral body image…

… And so much more!

Check out Beth’s website:
http://www.goodnessgraciousliving.com

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LU 036: Judith Matz – How the diet-/binge cycle works and what it takes to break free from it.



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Lovely radicals, it’s show time again!

This week, it’s my honor to welcome Judith Matz to the podcast.

Judith is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 25 years of experience as a therapist who helps people make peace with food, their bodies, and themselves. As someone who knows the struggle of feeling out of control around food, she now specializes in the treatment of Binge Eating Disorder and compulsive eating. Judith is the director of the “Chicago Center for Overcoming Overeating”, an organization dedicated to ending the preoccupation with food and weight through educational programs and workshops. She also loves public speaking and frequently presents at local and national conferences and meetings. Judith also is the co-author of two acclaimed books for adults called: “Beyond a Shadow of a Diet” and “The Diet Survivors Handbook” as well as a book on body image for kids called “Amanda’s Big Dream”. Her work has appeared in countless media outlets, and today, here she is!
Judith tells us:
– How she remembers being in a body in her pre-teen years
– How her family related to food and body
– Why her body image plummeted in high school
– How she learned that girls “bonded” through body-hatred and diet-talk
– What she experienced in the years she was restricting in order to “fix her body”
– What made her realize that it was restriction that messed with her once-normal relationship with food
– How the false promise of diets keeps people trapped in the same cycle
– What we are avoiding by making everything about our body’s size and its weight
– How to approach the journey towards self-acceptance and body acceptance
– Why this healing work is so worth it
– How she helps the many, many health professionals, nutritionists and personal trainers who are struggling themselves and unwillingly pass on their biases
– How the diet-binge cycle works and why it takes courage to break free from it and actually empower ourselves
– How you can tell if someone is dieting (no matter what they might call it to make it sound like they are not)
– Why there is often so much resistance when we tell them that diets are harmful
– How to find out what to do instead of dieting
– What she teaches parents about how to address body, food and weight
– What the research on the bodies of identical twins says in relation to diets
– Why you simply can not tell a person’s health by looking at their body
– How to re-learn eating after a lifetime of dieting and restricting
– How to switch to a kinder way of talking to ourselves…
– Why self-compassion and patience are pivotal in healing our body image and how we relate to food and weight…

… And so much more!

Check out Judith’s website:
http://www.judithmatz.com

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LU 034: Anne Poirier – No more compulsive exercise: How to break the chains of “being the fit one”.



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Hey, lovely radicals… it’s podcast time!

In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I’m talking to Anne Poirier.

Anne is the new program director at Green Mountain At Fox Run in Ludlow, Vermont. Green Mountain is a non-diet mind and body wellness center that offers retreats for women who want to start the journey back from years of dieting, body shame, weight-obsession and food fears. They re-learn to enjoy food again, and re-learn to move in a way that brings joy, and has nothing to do with food, calories or punishment. Anne was a fitness trainer for 30 years, battling her own body-shame-demons, and she came to the realization that the fitness industry is – sadly! – making many people less healthy, instead of more. She saw, time and time again, that the same people she had been helping to lose weight through diet and exercise, were coming back to her, after they had gained the weight back, feeling frustrated, depressed and convinced that they had failed. At the same time – unbeknownst to her clients – this same cycle was happening to her as well. Even though she did everything to look like the usual fitness professional, even though she tried modeling a “good way of eating”, and “exercising harder” than others, she finally came to see that this was no way of living, as it really leaves everyone trapped in a vicious, painful cycle, and that it is time to think about sustainability and enjoyment again. Listen to Anne tell us:
– How her mother related to food
– How early she internalized the idea that her body was something to be fixed
– How quickly this idea led her to anorexia
– Why she resisted to be treated
– How her anorexia eventually morphed into exercise bulimia
– How her eating disorder made influenced her decision to go into exercise science in college
– How she managed to hide her eating disorder in her athleticism for years
– How she – for years – tried to find her identity behind labels like “fit”, “strong” or “skinny”
– Why her two pregnancies were the only time she remembers feeling free around food
– How the disorder popped right back up after she gave birth
– How her profession kept feeding her eating disorder, and why she wasn’t even really aware of it
– How exercise is a legit addiction like any other
– What kind of issues and pain we are numbing out from by exercising compulsively
– What the biggest hurdle is for many people when they are tackling their exercise obsession
– How we can reframe how we think about our bodies towards a more realistic, grateful body image
– How painful it is to realize that she lived like that until she was almost 50 years old, too afraid to let go
– Why it was that only when her body started to break down that she started waking up
– How a forced break from exercise turned out to be the first step towards real healing
– How suddenly she discovered a life beyond fitness and training and weight-suppressing
– How she dealt with her changing weight
– Why “Drums Alive” turned out to be a real game-changer for her in terms of exercise
– Why it’s never wise to compare our insides to other people’s outsides
– Why some people have to hit rock bottom before they start to see that they don’t really want to live life presenting a facade that isn’t even them
– How she now sees clearly how she was desperately trying to “be someone special” all her life and how she lost herself in that for a long time
– How she describes her life from, say, five years ago, compared to her life now
– What her focus is in her work as program director at Green Mountain At Fox Run…
… And so much more!

Check out the wonderful Green Mountain website:
http://www.greenmountainatfoxrun.com
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LU 032: Diane Summers – There is hope for healing and achieving a life free from body issues.



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Lovely radicals! Welcome back.

This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to bring to you a fellow size-acceptance fighter: Diane Summers from Everett, Washington.

Diane is a nationally registered and state certified dietitian with extensive experience treating eating disorders at all levels of care. Diane has been involved in the awareness, prevention and treatment of eating disorders for more than 10 years, and has treated hundreds and hundreds of people of all ages and across the entire spectrum of eating disorders and eating issues. She is recognized as a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian through the international Association of Eating Disorder Professionals for her expertise in treating eating disorders and training other professionals in the treatment of eating disorders. She is also a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. Diane has presented at local and national conferences, schools, universities, clinics, and church groups.
Today, you’ll hear Diane talk about:
– How her parents feed her as a child and why she is extremely grateful for that
– What her emotional difficulties looked like as an “army kid”
– The ways in which her body image suffered in her adolescence
– Why she felt like “the odd one out” as a nutritionist
– What it was that made her question the diet-y ideas she got taught in nutrition school
– The reason why she got interested in working with eating disorders
– Why eating disorder treatments so often fail
– Why we are often unaware of our internal “size-ism” and how to bring that into awareness
– What it would take to make treatment success stories improve tremendously
– What she teaches her clients about weight-discrimination
– How we can smartly respond to body-shaming/food-shaming comments
– Why we should all abstain from making ANY comments on bodies, whether good or bad
– Why not just “the very thin”, but also a person in a bigger body might show signs of anorexia
– How a session with her could look like
– What it is that is way more telling if someone has disordered eating or an eating disorder than the actual weight
– What makes the diet-mentality so hard to break free from
– What people with disordered eating and eating disorders have in common
– Why the role of parents is crucially important in the development of a child’s body image
– How it is never really about food or weight, once the layers of the struggles are being worked through
– Why what the media presents us in terms of post-menopausal women is a legitimate set-up for body-wars
– Why weight-gain after menopause is the best life-protection for you…

… And so much more!

Check out Diane’s website:
http://www.hopenutritiontherapy.com

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LU 030: Marsha Hudnall – Helping women find body-peace and a full life after an eating disorder.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Marsha Hudnall from Ludlow, Vermont. Marsha is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, and she really has been a voice of reason and a thought leader for the last three decades in helping women move away from restrictive notions of food and health.

Ever since 1986, Marsha has been a guiding force at Green Mountain at Fox Run, the Vermont women’s retreat that pioneered the non-diet approach to health and weight. She now serves as president and co-owner, and she is passionate about all of her work. She is an accomplished writer who has written hundreds of articles for popular magazines, and professional journals and has worked extensively to educate the public about nutrition and about the impact of dieting and the internal diet-mentality that drives our eating behaviors and obsession with weight. Marsha is also the president of the Center For Mindful Eating and a former board member of the Binge Eating Disorder Association.
Listen in as Marsha talks about:
– What it was the set the stage for her quest for thinness
– How her mother’s body image and diet-obsession influenced her
– Why her personality type is typical for a person with an eating disorder
– What perfectionism has to do with eating disorders
– Why she never talked about her bulimia to anyone
– How her bulimia has affected her health long-term
– How restriction exacerbates any food-issues and causes food-obsession
– What the diet-industry has taken from our experience of “eating”
– Why that diet-mentality-induced guilt for eating created so many problems
– Why she became a dietitian
– What the steps to her healing looked like
– Why Green Mountain At Fox Run literally changed her life
– How her husband’s mother became the pioneer in the non-diet approach
– What the non-diet approach is REALLY about
– How best to move away from body-hate
– Why having a community and supporting each other can make all the difference
– Why accepting size-diversity is the key to self-acceptance
– How she introduces the concept of Health At Every Size to women who haven’t heard of it before
– What she means when she talks about structure around eating (it’s not what you think)
– Why eating fun-foods is very much part of a “normal” eating routine
– Why sugar addiction is nothing but another misleading marketing tactic
– How we can overcome those feelings of “addiction” with food
– What kind of feelings and thoughts people are trying to cope with by obsessing over food and weight
– How she deals with difficult feelings
– What makes community the key ingredient to healing for people…

… And so much more!

Check out Marsha here:
http://www.greatmountainatfoxrun.com

The Green Mountain At Fox Run Facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/GreenMountainAtFoxRun/?fref=ts
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LU 027: Thom Rutledge – Confronting the “inner Gremlin voice” and learning how to disobey it.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Thom Rutledge from Nashville. Thom is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, author and speaker, who has experienced both sides of the therapeutic relationship; as a clinician and as a client. He blends his personal recovery from depression, addiction and excessive self-criticism with 30 years of professional experience to guide his clients, readers, and audiences from self-judgment and perfectionism toward genuine self-compassion.

He’s the author of several books like “Embracing Fear”, “Earning Your Own Respect” and “The Greater Possibilities“, and he has co-written “Life Without ED” (ED meaning Eating Disorder) with Jenni Schaefer. Thom’s trademark sense of humor, a down-to-earth practicality, and his own compassion are the common threads than run through his unique brand of psychology. Thom will tell us:
– How contributing to a bestseller about eating disorders led to him specializing in eating disorder treatment
– How he as a recovering alcoholic (who’s been sober for 30 years) can relate to people with eating disorders and disordered eating
– Where he sees the familiarity between eating disorders and alcoholism
– Why eating disorders are often more difficult to recover from than alcohol addiction
– Why he asks his clients about their relationship to fear
– Why there often are existential fears underneath eating issues
– What his intra-personal therapy model consists of
– Why trust is such a crucial part of eating disorder therapy
– How we can separate our fear voice (inner Gremlin/inner bully) from our healthy voice (recovery voice)
– Why it is normal to often have different feelings or even opinions about things in life
– How clever our inner Gremlins are and how they trick us
– How this inner Gremlin actually manages to scare us into paralysis
– Why the inner Gremlin is a synonym for catastrophic thinking
– Why we should never expect to be able to fully rid ourselves of those inner bullies
– Why we can only learn to deal with them when we first start to listen to what it actually says
– Why it helps to ask ourselves how much of what this inner Gremlin predicts has ever really happened
– What we are really afraid of when we say “we are afraid of weight-gain”
– How he specifically works with my example
– Why rejecting and disobeying the inner Gremlin is the way to recovery
– Why in healing from bad body image and disordered eating it often gets worse before it gets better
– Why, when we have believed our inner Gremlin for decades, it often feels like shedding our old identity when we are on the way to becoming our true selves
– Why the inner Gremlin doesn’t get to use the “I” pronoun
– How to strengthen our inner, true recovery voice
– How we can become the real decision-makers in our own life
– How community and support play a pivotal role for our mental health
– Why he thinks the universe purposely designed us to be “forgetting machines”…

… And so much more!

Check out the Thom’s website to find out about his work and his books:
http://www.thomrutledge.com/
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LU 026: Melissa Toler – Bring sanity back to the way you eat, train and look at yourself.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Melissa Toler, from Maryland, close to Washington DC.

She is a certified health and wellness coach, speaker and writer, with a background as a pharmacist who offers a non-diet, weight-neutral health approach, and her goal is to help women connect the dots between our culture’s ridiculous beauty standards and our personal struggle with self-acceptance. She helps women unlearn the toxic messages and behaviors from lifelong dieting so they can learn a new set of skills and live a life free from obsession and self-loathing. Having a 25-year history with dieting herself, she knows personally what it means to be stuck in the diet-binge-cycle. She came to sanity a few years ago, and she says it was one of the best decisions she has ever made. I believe her. Melissa also teaches workshops and courses to help people on the path to improving their body image. We will all get some of here awesomeness in this episode!
Listen to Melissa talk about:
– Where she got the message that her body was “not good enough”
– What the moment was where she internalized the belief that she needed to change her body
– Why she got stuck in this well-known hell of weight-suppression, dieting and overexercising for so long
– What it was that made her wake up and learn to listen to her own body again
– What helped her to question her own thinking and see behind the mechanism of diet-culture and how much money is being made by making women feel “less than”
– Why it literally pays off to be hypercritical of media’s, TV’s and magazines’ messages
– Why by buying beauty/women’s magazines and diet books/products, we vote “yes” to our oppression with our own money
– Why we all need other people to help wake us up to what we have gotten so used to that we never stop to question it
– Why it is always a good idea to be suspicious of the words “body positive” or “empowered woman”, especially as it is being viciously co-opted by diet-culture these days
– What TRUE empowerment means
– What proved to be most helpful on her way out of constant dieting
– How she helps women re-connect to their true selves – How we can learn and implement the skill of self-compassion even when it sounds weird at first
– How we can start questioning our thoughts with curiosity instead of judgment
– How to decode what’s behind it when the “urge” to go on a diet comes up
– How we can stop the diet-thoughts from influencing our decisions
– How she helps her clients see where they have been mislead into “false” thinking about themselves being “not good enough”, and who profits off of that
– How much precious time in a person’s life can literally be wasted by getting stuck in diet-land, being preoccupied by weight-loss, body-negativity and obsession
– Why a person’s size never tells us anything about their health and the dangers of equating “thin” to “healthy”
– Why it is important to understand the sinister mechanism of diet-culture and how this can help us stepping out of old beliefs
– Why stepping out of diet culture is a truly radical move…

… And so much more!

Check out Melissa’s work:
http://www.melissatoler.com

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Hasta la vista, sad old New Year’s resolutions! Voilà: Better ideas to start a new year/week/day with.

Hey, lovely radicals!

Thank you all for your wonderful feedback for my last podcast episode on marketing literacy and better ideas for New Year’s resolutions. The responses have made my eyes swim.

A lot of you have asked for a written version as a handy reminder. Great idea!
(I’ll make it two posts, though, for length-reasons. Let’s tackle the resolutions first.)

Tadaaaa! January—the international month of mass-dieting—is ahead.
So here it comes thundering in again, the usual tsunami of the same old, diet-y New Year’s resolutions. What a biiiig surprise (yawn): Only 243’039’472 differently packaged versions of
“Just do THIS and happiness is yours!” Did you notice? All they are is a serving of “copy-paste” from last year, the year before, and the many years before that!—Some new products, some new gadgets… but the same crap all over: The message that we need to fix ourselves to be acceptable and—conveniently attached to it—any number of ideas how to go about that.

Enough already!

Sadly, they still get clicks. In fact, the more weight-loss-promising they are, the more clicks they get. That only shows how successfully the idea that “thin is better” has been marketed to us over the past decades.
After all the different ways this idea has been presented to us—anything from “Heroin-chic” to “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” to “Fitspo”, including the viciously spreading trend “Healthy is the new skinny”—millions of people have now come to believe that “healthy” has a LOOK! That “healthy” has a number on the scale.
(—How convenient for disordered eaters to hide their weight-loss-obsession behind: “Oh, I just want to be healthy!”)
People are now subscribing to ideas of clean eating, believing that this is the magic bullet to health, even if it often leads them into very dark rabbit holes of orthorexia and—funny, huh?—very unhealthy states. Sadly, this trend is rampant and turns women and girls into obsessed, rule-based, fearful, compulsive eaters that are anything BUT healthy or happy.
(Needless to say that if all of these trends didn’t promise some sort of weight-loss, we wouldn’t be as obsessed and clinging to all the ways “health” is now being marketed to us:
Cleanses, Paleo, Raw, Clean Eating, Multi-Level-Marketing schemes like “Beach Body” and all its nasty cousins, any number of weight-loss-challenges, and the gazillion of differently wrapped ideas that keep creeping into our feeds and burn themselves on to our already compromised hard drives.)

When all that matters is how we look and how others perceive us, we end up giving up our power and we end up ready and willing to try everything, no matter the cost.
Now matter how UN-healthy and miserable it makes us.

So. New Year’s resolutions.
Really?

Let me gently open the lid of my internal garbage grinder and enjoy the lovely sound of all of those little bastards being torn to shreds.

Aaaaaaah. Relief.
And now that the table is clear, let’s rewrite that script, shall we?
So, for the fun of it, as an emergency backup or just for inspiration, let’s create some NEW, sustainable, kind, game-changing New Year’s resolutions.
Well.
Since everything in our life has been about “have to“s and “gotta get to“s, “should“s and “no more“s—and we’ve all been running ourselves into the ground with these—THIS time, we’re going to abandon that sinking self-flagellation ship and make our list about PERMISSION. (Yep. The thing we think about least.)

Here are some of my ideas for now and forever after; take as many as you wish!

Some last words before I go:
You have permission to just be you, and to try to be as kind to yourself as you can.
We all deserve more freedom and joy, and this is a good time to allow some of that in, instead of opening the door to mood-darkening messages and self-defeating thoughts.

You deserve it.

You matter.

—And to prevent any sort of diet-mentality from creeping back into our minds after New Years Eve, you can count on me; I’ll be back January 2, with a new podcast episode with a wonderful guest who knows everything about kindness, especially when it comes to how we live with our bodies.
Good stuff is coming your way, radicals.
See you on the other side!

Love,
Meret.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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LU 022: Lauren Anton – Reconnect with your body’s innate wisdom and let go of societal rules.



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Hey, lovely radicals. Podcast time!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, you’re going to hear Lauren Anton from Culver City, California.

Lauren is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Personal Trainer specializing in eating disorders and sports nutrition. She is the owner of “Arrive: Nutrition, Movement, Life”. She has years of experience working at Eating Disorders Treatment facilities, in most levels of care, from Residential Treatment to Intensive Outpatient Treatment. She helps people who struggle with weight, food and exercise. Her goal is to assist her clients in moving away from a punitive experience with food and movement to one of self-compassion and self-care. Her non-diet, Health At Every Size approach allows people to break free from the chains of rules they have set for themselves that don’t serve them anymore, and she helps to guide them to an understanding of how their relationship to food, exercise and emotions are influencing each-other and their bodies. Lauren has spoken at numerous national conferences and events on eating disorders and sports nutrition.
Today, Lauren will tell us:
– What her earliest memory is of relating to bodies
– How her mother’s restriction of snacks led to her binging on them secretly
– Why she forced herself to become an athlete “against” her true inner will
– What she sees when she looks at pictures of herself as a teenager, back when she was convinced she was fat
– Why many women with anorexia don’t “look anorexic” and won’t get the help they need as long as doctors rely on something bogus like the BMI
– What her advice is for all the parents out there who are dealing with doctors commenting on their child’s weight
– What kind of experiences and comments made her develop a bad body image
– Why her obsession with body and body image was centered around athleticism
– How she learned to ignore her body’s signals just to be accepted as an athlete
– Why focusing on the shapes and sizes of bodies isn’t helpful in sports, and what we should be focusing on instead
– Why it is important to know and expect that giving up coping mechanisms like dieting or overexercising is going to bring up anxiety
– Why people who exercise compulsively or engage in other disordered eating behaviors won’t heal if they “wait until they feel ready”
– Why she thinks many people have to rock bottom until they allow themselves to change their lifestyle and finally heal
– What her own rock bottom was
– What kind of questions we can ask ourselves when we are tempted to fall back into old habits of weight-obsessing…
… And so much more!

 

Check out Lauren’s (brand new!) website and find out about her coaching business at:
http://www.arrivenutrition.com

 

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LU 013: Chris Cole – A man makes peace with his body, mind, spirit and food.



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In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Chris Cole from Boulder, Colorado. Chris is a life coach and works with clients in recovery from any number of addictions, mood or behavioral issues. He has been through quite a journey himself. In fact, it was such a rollercoaster ride that he wrote a book about it: It’s called “The Body Of Chris – a Memoir of Obsession, Addiction and Madness”.

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Chris is a highly compassionate, positive force that helps people find their truth and their unique healing by offering an experienced perspective, a radical wellness orientation and an encouraging relationship that is crucial to sustainable growth. Listen in and hear Chris’ amazing story:
– What factors contributed to him feeling ashamed of his body in childhood
– Why early restriction only exacerbated his difficult relationship to food
– How being bullied and fat-shamed as a boy made him obsessed with losing weight
– How he learned to binge eat and the real danger of the concept of “cheat meals”
– How a personal trainer introduced him to diet-pills
– Why he didn’t realize the harm of them and quickly got hooked
– Why these “speedy” diet-pills turned out to be a gateway drug for him
– How his obsession with becoming thinner escalated into a whole range of problems
– When and how it became obvious for him and those around him that he was really sick
– What kind of harmful behaviors and habits contributed to his manic episode in college
– How manic episodes of psychosis typically present themselves and what it felt like for him
– How his deep body shame manifested in this peak moment of crisis
– Why his book is called “The Body of Chris”
– Why he is very passionate when talking about “The tragedy of the BMI”
– How he now sees that his alcohol/drug addictions are connected to his history of body shame and disordered eating as well as to his bipolar disorder
– Why he felt he had to numb out his sensitive nature
– What made him have liposuction at 17 and why that didn’t help him feel better about himself
– Why his body shame was the last and biggest hurdle on his road to full recovery
– Why he thinks recovery from any sort of destructive behavior is only the first step to dealing with the deeper problem that we tried to numb out from
– How vulnerability with his then-future-wife helped him take the necessary steps
– Why intuitive eating was so hard for him to learn
– How he deals with the messages that our weight-obsessed culture, TV and movies throw at us
– How meditation taught him to deal with his thoughts
– Why his current profile picture on Facebook represents what recovery looks like to him
– What having a body means to him these days and how he appreciates it, flaws and all…

… And so much more!

Check out Chris Cole and his coaching over at:
http://www.colecoaching.com
Here’s the link to Chris’ wonderful book “The Body Of Chris”:
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Chris-Obsession-Addiction-Madness/dp/1941758142/

 

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LU 008: Vania Phitidis – Feeling peaceful around food and your body (+ some instant therapy)



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My friend, how nice to see you are tuning back in!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Vania Phitidis from Sussex, Great Britain. Vania is an Intuitive Eating Counsellor, an MB-EAT teacher, MB-EAT being the acronym for Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training) as well as a Self Esteem Mentor. She has a master in Education for Sustainability from London South Bank and a Bachelor degree in Psychology and Art history from VITS.

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In order to resolve her own body image issues and eating disorders she found that she had to let go of 5 things. 1 – unrealistic expectations of herself, 2 dieting, 3 restricting particular foods, 4 trying to get and stay skinny and 5 attempting to be perfect. Sounds easy, but was a lifelong process that she will tell us about. What she is focused on nowadays is being her most powerful self and helping others to enhance the quality of their own life and make better use of it than eternally dieting. For me, it’s vulnerability time today… In this episode, Vania Phitidis doesn’t just show us how we can let go of our food and weight fears and approach health from a sane and loving perspective. But she uses me as an example… and questions my inner gremlin voice. Find out how that turns out! So, listen in and hear Vania tell us her story:
– How early it got into her head that women should „lose weight“
– How quick children are to copy what they see their mothers do
– What made her develop bulimia and how bad that got for her
– Why giving up bulimia didn’t change anything on a mental level
– Why she subsequently got stuck in dieting and being constantly worried about her weight
– Why it is that diets (or “lifestyle changes” where weight-loss is the goal!) DO NOT work
– Why we often do the worst thing for our body when we train too often and too hard.
– What it takes to overcome the eternally distracting quest for thinness
– How she overcame her internalized fear of weight gain
– How we can choose what we expose ourselves to
– How she learned that everyone, including herself, is inherently worthy
– Why women who stay obsessed by weight-loss and dieting are severely limiting their potential
– How she learned to calm her mind and catch the thoughts that kept her stuck
– How we can learn to question our beliefs and our thinking
– Why it is important to question what we believe is „true“, simply because we “always believed it”
– Why mindfulness is key on the path to self-acceptance and body-acceptance
– How mindfulness can help us become aware of our feelings and our spontaneous reactions
– Why she doesn’t advise anyone to shout back at the inner critic, and what to do instead
– Why she believes that Intuitive Eating is the only way to leave the days of “feeling crazy around food” behind
– Why the switch from dieting to Intuitive Eating takes a leap of faith and can be very challenging
– Why real progress in the direction of healing is not possible unless we work on our body image and our deep-rooted fat-phobia
– How she deals with people who engage in diet-talk, body-shaming and eternal weight-loss-talk bonding.
– What her mission in life is…

…And so much more!
Check out Vania Phitidis and her coaching over at:
http://www.peacefuleating.co.uk
Also find her group on Facebook “It’s not about the weight”

The book that opened her eyes on the oppressive nature of diet-culture:
Naomi Wolf: “The Beauty Myth”
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LU 003: Nicola Rinaldi – No period. Now what? Health issues from overexercise and too little food.



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Friends!
Welcome to the third episode of the Life. Unrestricted. Podcast!

In this episode, I talk to Nicola Rinaldi from Boston (USA) about her journey from losing her period – due to too much exercise and not enough food – to recovery, and in her case a beautiful family with three boys. The talks about how her love of exercise became unhealthy and how things really turned nasty when she also started dieting in order to lose “those ten pounds”. She came to regret that: She stopped menstruating and subsequently almost slipped into a full blown eating disorder. Fortunately, she was able to allow herself to get better: Her dreams of having a family of her own meant that she had to take care of herself. She exercised less, ate more and finally got her period back and started a family. She is passionate about helping women to see why their cycle is so important for their mood, their sleep, their bones and their overall health whether or not they want children of their own. She helped hundreds of women recover their periods and has only recently published her book “No period. Now What?”, a comprehensive guide to recovery for women who have lost their period. Nicola shares her insights on:
– What “Hypothalamic Amenorrhoea” (HA) is, what causes it and what the ramifications of it are
– How, when she lost her period more than 10 years ago, she had to do her own research to find out what was really happening
– How the Minnesota Starvation Experiment Study helped her regain her senses and start to recover
– How women are often misinformed when it comes to weight and pregnancy
– How it happens that we often think that we are doing the “healthy thing” when, in reality, we are damaging our health
– What “healthy exercise” is
– How we are often totally misguided when it comes to exercise and food
– How to recover a healthy menstrual cycle and keep up a non-diet lifestyle after birth
– How we can change our mindset from “fear of weight gain” to “becoming healthy and happy” again
– How we can snap out of our negative self-talk
– How we can start to change the conversation about the current, unnatural beauty ideal that we see
– How partners and husbands are often suffering when their girlfriends or wives get stuck in such a state of weight-obsession and exercise compulsion
– How they react to a woman regaining her full health and radiance, and how much they appreciate their natural bodies and relaxedness
– How she raises her three boys to become non-judgmental towards size and shape…

… And so much more!

 nicolarinaldi

Check out Nicola Rinaldi and her new book “No period. Now what?” over at:
http://www.noperiodnowwhat.com
Or you can also visit her old blog right here:
http://www.noperiodbaby.com

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LU 002: Nicole Spencer – A brave journey from addictions and disorders back to life with yoga.



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Lovelies and loveliettes,
Welcome to episode TWO of the Life. Unrestricted. Podcast!

In this episode of the Life Unrestricted Podcast, I am talking to Nicole Spencer, a 49 year old life coach and Yoga Recovery teacher from Zurich, Switzerland. She shares with us her incredible journey from growing up as an anxious kid who developed OCD, later an eating disorder, exercise addiction, and, finally, severe alcoholism from which it took her a long time to fully recover. She reveals what really helped her on this often difficult healing process and how she maintains healthy boundaries and true stability. Initially a successful banker, she has now found her true passion in helping other people on their way to recovery from addictions and disorders, and to find their inner peace, more grounding as well as access to their true inner compass. She shares her best advice on:
– How, unless we treat the root cause of them, it’s highly likely that stopping an addiction will only cause another to appear and hurt us
– How we can cultivate more self-compassion
– How to de-stress in today’s constant sensory overload
– How to ground ourselves when things aren’t going as planned
– How to calm our monkey mind
– What it means to truly take care of ourselves…
… And so much more!

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Find Nicole and her boyfriend Michel are the creators of Yogaherz (Switzerland); you can find everything on:
http://www.yogaherz.ch/about-us-en.html
Nicole teaches great Yoga classes at Sanapurna in Zurich (Switzerland), all the infos are on:
http://www.sanapurna.ch

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