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LU 059: Dana Sturtevant – How being truly nourished helps your body to trust you (and vice versa!)



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Dana Sturtevant from Portland, Oregon.

Dana is a trainer, mentor, Kripalu Yoga teacher, and Registered Dietitian specializing in Health at Every Size (HAES) and Intuitive Eating. She is the co-founder of “Be Nourished”, a revolutionary business helping people heal body dissatisfaction and reclaim body trust. In her work, Dana loves to incorporate mindfulness and self-compassion practices, and she is specialized in Motivational Interviewing techniques. She has facilitated more than 300 workshops throughout the United States for health care providers looking to enhance their skills in behavior-change counseling, and her work has been published in various media outlets. You’ll hear Dana talk about:
– How lucky she was to be able to grow up in a household where there were no diets, body shaming or any sort of hyper-focus on “healthy eating”
– When and why she became self-conscious about her shape and size
– Why she went into the field of nutrition
– What she found out about her younger self from reading her own letters to her late grandmother
– What she experienced in her previous work as a “weight management” dietitian
– Why that work started to feel deeply unethical for her
– Why living a free, flexible life and weight-suppression don’t go together
– How our inner “trance of unworthiness” drives us to keep abandoning ourselves
– Why no amount of weight-loss will improve how you feel about yourself, and why feeling worthy and confident really is an inside job unrelated to weight
– The importance of recognizing the difference between “fitting in” and feeling a sense of “belonging”
– How her and Hilary’s clients often react when they first hear their message
– Why it is so hard to claim something (that we KNOW is true) for ourselves
– Why this current “health-ism” (hyper-focus on “having to be healthy, or else it’s our own fault”) is really about money
– Why so many people, including health-care providers, are in denial about “prescribing diets”
– Why we are often tricked into believing “well, this is not a diet, this is only a lifestyle change”
– What happens when one coping mechanisms is being forcefully removed without working on the underlying issue
– Why compulsive exercise always points to a complicated relationship with food/weight
– Why it’s totally ok that not all people are athletes
– Why today’s “gym-culture” is ruining a healthy relationship to movement for most people
– Why nobody can tell you what your body needs, and why there IS no black or white strategy that works
– Why it is always wise to be suspicious of people who claim to “have found the true way to health/fitness/weight-loss”, especially when they are trying to sell said truth
– Why it takes some time (and effort) to heal the “dieting mind”
– Why the healing process really only works when we put concerns about weight on the back burner
– Why most people have to hit “diet bottom” to kick-start the healing process
– What needs to be grieved when we find the courage to step into our fears and work towards freedom
– Why diet-talk is basically nothing else but women keeping up their own oppression
– Why the fear of a particular food is worse for your body than the actual food
– Why the moralization of food is particularly dangerous for people
– Why “going Paleo” and “going gluten-free” (except for the 1% of the population who actually has celiac disease) and “going vegan” are fads, too
– How absurd the whole “nutritionism” in the world looks when we zoom out for a minute to really look at all the contradicting advice out there
– What real success looks like for clients of “Be Nourished”
– Why rules are the problem, and not – as we might think – the solution
– How “full permission to eat” looks like and why it is the solution to stop the diet-binge-cycle
– Why it is important to process and release the anger that we have directed inwards for so long
– Why it is important to realize that it is not your fault that you have a complicated relationship to food (Dana’s dog agrees strongly here)
– How “Be Nourished” helps private clients as well as health care providers get rid of weight-bias…
… And so much more!

Check out Hilary Kinavey’s and Dana Sturtevant’s work with “Be Nourished” here:
http://www.benourished.org

Here’s the link to their Facebook page:
https://www.facebook.com/benourishedpdx/?fref=ts

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LU 053: Me, solo – When the inner Gremlin insists on perfectionism and productivity, give him this.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s time to call out the inner Gremlin voice and all its rules that it is constantly making up for us.
Most of you might be familiar with those thoughts; the ones that tell us we have to be “on” all the time, that we “better pull ourselves together”, that we have “to soldier on, no matter what”, that we have “to power through”, that it’s our “duty to be productive”, that we need “o prove our worth”, that it’s our job to always “be the responsible one”, and that we – heaven forbid! – can never (ever!) be perceived as “a slacker”…
Sound familiar?
Now… wait a minute.
Whose thoughts are these?
Mine?
Yours?
No way!
These are inner Gremlin thoughts.

They are NOT truth.

And in order for us to keep our sanity, and to take responsibility for ourselves and our wellbeing, we need to talk back to those Gremlin thoughts.
We have to learn to let those Gremlin thoughts be just what they are: Thoughts.
Not something we have to act upon.

Because we are of no use to the world when we are burnt out, when we are running on empty, and when we are secretly breeding resentment left and right, because we aren’t listening to our needs, and not creating healthy boundaries.

Also in this shortie:
– Why the myth of „we should be happy all the time“ is detrimental to our wellbeing
– What the myth of „we should be productive at all times“ does to our mental and physical health – Why „I’m Fine!“ is one of the most common lies
– Why we take on false identities (“The Fit one”, “The Healthy Eater”, “The Perfect Mom”, “The Not-Ever-Complainer”, “The Productive One”, “The Happy, Smiley One” etc…) and how these false identities end up shackling and constricting us
– Why it’s an act of bravery and the only path to true liberation to step up from behind our masks and reclaim our truth, our own personal values, our purpose, and to let go of old identities that might once have served us
– Why we will only find „our people“ when we start showing up „real and authentic“ ourselves…

… And so much more!

Time for some permission slips!
Re-listen to episode 23 with me:
http://www.lifeunrestricted.org/lu023

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LU 049: Erica Leon – Free yourself from chaotic patterns of yoyo-dieting and overexercising.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Erica Leon from Westchester County, New York.

Erica holds a Bachelor’s degree in nutrition from Cornell University and a Master’s degree in clinical nutrition from New York University. Erica works with clients all over the globe – by all technical means necessary -, people who struggle with food, their body, and people who want to overcome years of dieting or being stuck in disordered eating. She meets people where they are at and guides them to a better relationship to food and their body with a non-diet approach. She has 25 years of experience under her belt and her career has included working in hospitals, corporations and colleges. Ultimately combining all of her skills and interests, she established a private nutrition practice over 15 years ago. As a Certified Eating Disorders Registered Dietitian (CEDRD) she also volunteers on the Board of the International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals, she has written professional articles on nutritions, she frequently gives talks, and she has often been quoted in the media on topics such as eating disorder prevention and childhood weight issues.
Today, you’ll hear Erica talk about:
– How she remembers being in a body felt like as a child
– Where she internalized the message that her body was too big
– What the role of her family was in the development of her relationship to food
– What counting and tracking points/calories can do to our self-image
– Why it is so important to curate your social media feed, and to look at bodies in all shapes and sizes
– Why striving for “a flat stomach” is complete BS, and why having belly-fat is, in fact, important for a woman’s overall health as she gets older
– Why it is crucial to realize that we are all so much more than a body
– How it can be helpful to think about what we would love our legacy to be
– How long she lived with her own internal diet-mindset
– How she got into the field of nutrition
– Why she was working in the marketing department for a weight-loss company (and what memories about her connection to one of Oprah’s many weight-loss incidents still make her cringe)
– How she herself unknowingly contributed to diet-culture and its message that “thin is better”
– What made her realize that something was not right
– How working with eating disorders helped her on her own journey
– What she would tell her younger self with the knowledge she has now
– Why women often automatically objectify themselves according to what they see in the media and in ads
– Why she loves the “Poodle Science” video of the Academy of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH)
– The problem with today’s celebrity worshipping culture and the unfortunate influence they have on our children’s self-esteem
– How she’s helping one of her clients with exercise bulimia
– What the key ingredient is in the journey to give up lifelong dieting, as well as recovering from disordered eating or eating disorders
– Why it takes time, self-compassion, patience and community to heal our societally damaged body image and how we relate to food and weight
– How she curated her social media feed and left all the groups (and unfollowed/unfriended people) that were repeatedly engaging in of diet- and weight-loss-talk
– Why social media opened up a whole new world for her and made her realize that she wasn’t the only one AT ALL who was preaching the non-diet approach to health
– Why it is so hard for the old paradigm-believers to change their minds
– What kind of transformations she gets to witness in her practice…
… And so much more!

Check out Erica’s website:
http://www.ericaleon.com

Here’s the link to the wonderful “Poodle Science” video of the Academy of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H89QQfXtc-k

Make sure to support the podcast by becoming a “Patreon”, so that I can keep producing it and help as many people as possible. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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LU 048: Chevese Turner – Breaking the stigma of Binge Eating Disorder with insight and compassion.



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This week, on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Chevese Turner from the Washington DC area.

Chevese is the woman who almost 9 years ago founded the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA) in June 2008, recognizing the need for an organization to advocate on behalf of individuals affected by Binge Eating Disorder (BED), as well as the providers who treat them. Turner’s well-rounded career in the health care, pharmaceutical, political and non-profit arenas, as well as her many leadership roles within these fields, prepared her to launch BEDA, the only organization specifically suited to support individuals and treatment professionals managing BED.
Today, you’ll hear Chevese talk about:
– How old she was when she lost the innocent, joyful, and non-judgmental attitude towards her own body
– What drove her to start searching for, stealing and hoarding food
– What every type of binging behavior stems from
– How her mother related to food and weight
– Why denial about unhealed past wounds always leads to us passing along the same pain (we can not outrun our own shadow)
– Why those old painful memories are often the ones that leave the deepest imprint on our soul
– Why we often treat ourselves the way we have been treated as children
– Why food (restricting/dieting, or overeating) is so commonly used to try to escape difficult emotions
– How we can start to make sense of our own behavior around food
– Why there is no need to be ashamed for recognizing those behaviors for what they are
– How shame and weight-bias affect a person’s physical and mental health
– Why all the advice she got actually only perpetuated her eating disorder
– Why she never really knew what she liked/what her hobbies were
– Why she immediately regretted having lap band surgery
– What is commonly misunderstood with Binge Eating Disorder (BED)
– Why, at the root, anorexia and BED are much more alike as they outwardly seem
– Why our society is too quick to categorize people, instead of listening to the person in question first
– How terribly effective diet-culture and its constant messages and images really is, and why it is important to be aware of how all of that seeps into our subconscious and colors our own judgment
– What she wants us all to know about our bodies
– Why bariatric surgery is often done solely for profit, and why there’s so little information about the dangers and the long-term effects of it
– The medical ramifications of our society’s belief that “healthy” looks a certain way
– How she reacted when she first heard that her Binge Eating Disorder was only to be treated effectively by nourishment
– How many years she wasted by being stuck in the diet-cycle, and having little mental space for anything that would have really sparked her interest
– Why so many body-obsessed women have no idea who they really are outside of dieting
– What led her to found BEDA, and how wonderfully that organization developed
– What BEDA is about and what they are actively working on
– Why it is important for all of us to resist any sort of weight-stigmatization, and to speak up against it…
… And so much more!

Here’s the link to BEDA (where you’ll also find info about the conferences)
http://www.bedaonline.com

And here’s the toll-free number that Chevese mentioned (only for US listeners):
855 855 2332

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LU 047: Jessica Setnick – When eating and exercising turn into attempts at escaping emotions.



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This week on the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Jessica Setnick from Dallas, Texas.

Jessica is an internationally known pediatric dietitian, an award-winning writer and she is training professionals to work in the field of eating issues. She is definitely the best sort of woman to talk to about the origins of our world’s body image problem and our issues with eating and weight; Jessica is an icon in the eating disorder field. Her academic background is in human behavior and with her Master’s Degree in Exercise Physiology and Sports Nutrition, she has become an expert in dysfunctional and disordered eating who has a unique ability to see what others might miss. As a Certified Eating Disorder Dietitian and Dietitian Supervisor, she has treated thousands of patients in the hospital and out, and she knows how to identify the underlying issues influencing patients’ eating. Jessica is the author of “The Eating Disorder Clinical Pocket Guide” and “Eating Disorders Boot Camp”, and she is a co-founder of IFEED, the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians. In 2013, after 16 years of hospital and community work, Jessica closed her private practice to fulfill her mission of educating health professionals about our current understanding of eating disorders and thereby empowering them to confidently and competently help those who suffer. In all of her work, Jessica combines humor, science, and professional experience to help us all improve one of the key relationships in life—the one we have with food.
Today, you’ll hear Jessica talk about:
– How she related to food and her body as a child
– What drove her to get a degree in Anthropology as well as one in Sports Nutrition
– What she learned about people’s eating behaviors
– Why there is always a reason for the way we relate to food
– Why the oldest emotional wounds often have the deepest imprint on our soul
– Why we are so often attracted to people who end up treating us like our fathers or mothers did
– Why we can only recognize as love what we grew up to believe was love
– What we hope to achieve by re-creating our childhood “drama”
– Why our habits very often evolved as way to self-soothe, at a stage when the particular behavior was the only way we knew how to deal with difficult experiences
– Why there is no need to be ashamed for recognizing those behaviors for what they are
– What our own judgments can tell us about ourselves
– Why our society is too quick to categorize people in their particular problems, and how to look at eating disorders from an individual’s perspective
– Why it can be the most powerful thing to just be present with someone who’s currently struggling
– What the advantages are for recovering from disordered eating as an adult, no matter how long their behaviors have been disordered
– Why it is never too late to start un-dieting, recovering, and befriending food and our body again
– How early in life we get conditioned to detach our eating from our internal cues
– What she wants us all to know about our bodies
– Why it’s important to remind ourselves who’s profiting off our insecurities
– How weight-bias in the medical field can cause people to die
– The medical ramifications of our society’s belief that “healthy” looks a certain way
– What’s dangerous about our society’s unhealthy coupling of the concepts of food and exercise
– Why our controlling tendencies can only give us a false sense of safety
– How little is actually known about eating disorders
– What an ideal eating disorder professional should bring to the table
– What she means when she says “start being an anthropologist in everyday life” and why it is so helpful
– The danger of repeated exposure to seemingly harmless advertisements
– How to see the ridiculousness of the made-up/fake-advertisement world
– Why awareness (and self-awareness!) is key on the journey of growing more resilient
– What she thinks about the memes that tell us to “love our bodies”…
… And so much more!

Check out Jessica’s website:
http://www.understandingnutrition.com

Find more info about the “Eating Disorder Bootcamp” and other resources here:
http://www.understandingnutrition.com/store/default.php
http://www.eatingdisordersbootcamp.com

If you enjoy and love my podcast, please consider supporting it by becoming a “Patreon”! It would greatly help me to keep those episodes coming to you. Thanks!
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LU 046: Jessamyn Stanley – What yoga is about, what it’s not about, and why it is for EVERY BODY.


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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Jessamyn Stanley from Durham, North Carolina.

Jessamyn, as many of you know, is a yogi who breaks all the stereotypes. She has built a life as an internationally recognized yoga teacher and award-winning Instagram star by combining a deep understanding for yoga with a willingness to share her personal struggles in a way that touches everyone who comes to know her. Now she brings her body-positive, emotionally uplifting approach to yoga in a book that will help every reader discover the power of yoga and how to weave it seamlessly into his or her life. It’s called “Every Body Yoga”, and just like herself, this book breaks all the stereotypes. You will hear Jessamyn share:
– Where she thinks our self-consciousness about our bodies comes from
– What it was that made her become dissatisfied with who she was and how her body looked
– What brought her to yoga
– What anxiety/depression have to do with our mind’s tendency to ruminate about the past and/or worry about the future
– How she understands the spiritual aspect of the yoga practice
– Why there’s so much to be said for having a healthy detachment to the materialistic focus that our culture promotes
– Why she thinks that the obsession with surface-level things, like the “look” of bodies, are huge shortcomings of our society
– What the dangers of social media and the display of fake “perfection” are
– Why “getting likes” is never something we should be aiming for
– Why no amount of outside approval can ever fill the void in our hearts
– Why the disconnection that happens when everybody “lives” on the screen is so harmful for our soul’s wellbeing
– Why most of what we see on social media is fake and—upon closer inspection—completely irrelevant
– Why she says what she wants and doesn’t care too much about what other people think of her
– Why we often look for “meaning” in life in the exact wrong places
– Why people who feel insecure make better customers
– How we can become more comfortable in our own company
– Why facing and owning our “shit” is the only way to liberation
– Where true inner contentment comes from
– What most people plain misunderstand about yoga
– What the problems are with “modern” (westernized) yoga
– What she feels yoga is really about (hint: it’s not about how the body looks)
– How she got connected to her emotions after years of stuffing them away
– What emotions she has most difficulty with
– How she deals with critics and haters
– How she deals with getting so much attention and having to be more social than she feels is her nature…

… And so much more!
Check out Jessamyn and all of her work (including her book “Every Body Yoga”) at:
http://www.jessamynstanley.com

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LU 045: Carolyn Costin – What recovery means & why undiagnosed eating issues can be the worst.



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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I am talking to Carolyn Costin from Malibu, California.

Carolyn is a world-renowned clinician, author and speaker acclaimed for her expertise, passion and accomplishments in the field of eating disorders. She is a certified Eating Disorder Specialist and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. After having recovered from anorexia in her early 20s, Carolyn became a psychotherapist, and it was her successful treatment of those with eating disorders that led her to bring her philosophy to the public through her speaking and her books. In 1996, Carolyn created “Monte Nido”, the first licensed, residential eating disorder treatment facility in a home setting that has since spurred into 14 facilities nationwide offering a continuum of care. Carolyn’s career is dedicated to lecturing, training, teaching and supervising clinicians, dietitians and physicians. Having left “Monde Nido” last year, she remains active in the eating disorder field and she is involved in several professional organizations including the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals as a board trustee and the Academy of Eating Disorders as a fellow. Her advocacy work continues in many arenas including organizations such as Project Heal, Eating Disorder Hope and the Eating Disorder Coalition. At the start of this year, 2017, Carolyn has opened “The Carolyn Costin Institute”, which offers Eating Disorder Coach Training, a mentor program, continuing education for clinicians as well as other specialized training. Carolyn talks about:
– How long the carefree, joyful feeling of “being in a body” as a child lasted for her
– How our habits of comparison and our ideas of “status” are detrimental to body image
– What the “Fiji-study” is all about, and what TV/advertisement can do to women
– What body-bullying does to kids
– What triggered her eating disorder
– Why she doesn’t support the idea that eating issues are “a genetic thing”
– How people with anxiety can calm their anxious thoughts
– Why it is so important to become aware of the fact that we are NOT our thoughts, but we can observe them, and let them pass without grabbing on to their message
– Why spiritual bypassing is not solving anything, yet so many people try to do just that; avoid difficult emotions by trying to meditate them away instead of facing them in a calm state
– What there is still to be fixed in our cultural way of relating to weight and bodies
– Why eating disorder treatments that still have a weight-centric approach often backfire and make a full, lasting recovery impossible
– Why it is so important for all of us to just detach from the number on the scale
– Why it is critically important that everyone working with people with disordered eating resolve their own body- and weight issues first
– How she trains therapists and coaches to become good eating disorder therapists
– What it actually is that makes a good eating disorder therapist/coach/mentor/dietitian
– How she defines „recovery“
– Why people with undiagnosed eating issues can often be the ones that are the sickest
– The danger of today’s obsession with “clean” eating, detoxes, the idea of having to earn or burn food, and all the food advice out there
– Why she thinks people still go on diets even if it is a well-established facts that diets don’t work
– The horrible consequences of fat-shaming people
– How the weight-loss industry (together with the advertisement “geniuses”) manage to suck so many people in, again and again
– The risk factors of developing an eating disorder
– Why eating disorders still often don’t get addressed at schools, even though the numbers are rampant
– Why she made it her mission to train recovered people to become eating disorder coaches
– Why a feeling of secure attachment is critical to overcome any issues we might have developed to protect ourselves or to cope with difficult feelings…

… And so much more!

If you are interested in Carolyn Costin’s work, check out her website:
http://www.carolyn-costin.com

Here’s the link to Carolyn’s books:
https://www.amazon.com/Carolyn-Costin/e/B001HCYYJ8

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LU 040: Kelsey Miller – The author of “Big Girl” talks about overcoming dieting and getting a life.



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In this week’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, you’ll hear me talk to Kelsey Miller from Brooklyn, New York.

Kelsey graduated from Boston University with a Bachelor’s degree in Film & Television. She began her career in the film production industry before transitioning to full-time writing. Soon after joining the staff of the online magazine Refinery29, she created The Anti-Diet Project, one of the website’s most popular franchises. She is currently a Senior Features Writer and of course she is the author of the wonderful memoir “Big Girl”.
Kelsey shares her story with us, and you’ll hear:
– How old she was when she became convinced that there was something “wrong” with her body
– How her mother related to her body and weight
– How early she started restricting food and trying to become skinnier
– How easy kids pick up even indirect comments about food and weight and internalize them
– How her dream of becoming an actor was being put under the condition that she loses weight, and how that kicked off years of her trying to starve herself into some arbitrary ideal
– Why, for so many people, the first diet-success (the high of getting compliments and being applauded for the effort) becomes the carrot they end up chasing for decades
– Why people innocently end up sacrificing their self-esteem, their values, the full experience of life and their peace of mind
– How she ended up with a black or white, on/off mindset regarding food and exercise
– Why re-learning to relate to movement without obsessing/counting/tracking is equally important as developing a normal relationship to food
– Why it often takes hearing or reading about someone else’s struggles to wake us up out of our own trance
– Why dieting and over-exercising are often ways of distracting ourselves from self-exploration
– When and how she finally realized what her being stuck in dieting actually cost her
– What happened when she decided to let go of this body-loathing way of escaping her own life
– How, at first, she was at a complete loss of how to proceed, since all she knew was dieting
– How she realized that “Intuitive Eating” would be her life-saver
– Why “true permission to eat” turned out to be the key to healing
– How re-learning to trust our body’s signal is an ongoing process
– What the issues were that came up after she stopped escaping from them by her dieting behaviors
– Why denial plays a huge part in someone’s obsession with weight, food and exercise
– How her hard work on her deeper issues really paid out for her
– How her relationship developed through her process with giving up her weight-obsession
– Why accepting love when you don’t love YOURSELF first is extremely difficult and uncomfortable
– Why becoming vulnerable and honest towards a partner is so crucial in a relationship
– Why it is so important to start challenging our own internal thoughts and beliefs
– Why representation of “real” bodies matters so much and what she does to make this more of a reality
– When to address someone else’s bias and when to let the ball drop
– How family and friends reacted when her book came out
– What she has to say to you if you are on the fence of writing about your journey…

…And so much more!

Check out Kelsey’s website:
http://www.kelseymiller.com

Here’s the link to Refinery29:
http://www.refinery29.com

Here’s the link to her memoir “Big Girl”:
https://www.amazon.com/Big-Girl-Gave-Dieting-Life/dp/1455532630/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1492549935&sr=1-1&keywords=big+girl

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LU 036: Judith Matz – How the diet-/binge cycle works and what it takes to break free from it.



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Lovely radicals, it’s show time again!

This week, it’s my honor to welcome Judith Matz to the podcast.

Judith is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 25 years of experience as a therapist who helps people make peace with food, their bodies, and themselves. As someone who knows the struggle of feeling out of control around food, she now specializes in the treatment of Binge Eating Disorder and compulsive eating. Judith is the director of the “Chicago Center for Overcoming Overeating”, an organization dedicated to ending the preoccupation with food and weight through educational programs and workshops. She also loves public speaking and frequently presents at local and national conferences and meetings. Judith also is the co-author of two acclaimed books for adults called: “Beyond a Shadow of a Diet” and “The Diet Survivors Handbook” as well as a book on body image for kids called “Amanda’s Big Dream”. Her work has appeared in countless media outlets, and today, here she is!
Judith tells us:
– How she remembers being in a body in her pre-teen years
– How her family related to food and body
– Why her body image plummeted in high school
– How she learned that girls “bonded” through body-hatred and diet-talk
– What she experienced in the years she was restricting in order to “fix her body”
– What made her realize that it was restriction that messed with her once-normal relationship with food
– How the false promise of diets keeps people trapped in the same cycle
– What we are avoiding by making everything about our body’s size and its weight
– How to approach the journey towards self-acceptance and body acceptance
– Why this healing work is so worth it
– How she helps the many, many health professionals, nutritionists and personal trainers who are struggling themselves and unwillingly pass on their biases
– How the diet-binge cycle works and why it takes courage to break free from it and actually empower ourselves
– How you can tell if someone is dieting (no matter what they might call it to make it sound like they are not)
– Why there is often so much resistance when we tell them that diets are harmful
– How to find out what to do instead of dieting
– What she teaches parents about how to address body, food and weight
– What the research on the bodies of identical twins says in relation to diets
– Why you simply can not tell a person’s health by looking at their body
– How to re-learn eating after a lifetime of dieting and restricting
– How to switch to a kinder way of talking to ourselves…
– Why self-compassion and patience are pivotal in healing our body image and how we relate to food and weight…

… And so much more!

Check out Judith’s website:
http://www.judithmatz.com

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