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LU 057: Dr. Steven Prentice – Are you ready for “Healthnut Rehab”? Here’s how real health works.


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In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Dr. Steve Prentice from Columbus, Ohio.

Steve, as a practicing chiropractor and health contrarian since 1996, has spent his career questioning the status quo and the accepted norms when it comes to health and wellbeing. His experience working with thousands of patients over the past 20 years led him to create what he termed quote “the stress-centered approach to health” and he now leads his patients through the process of restoring their health and quality of life while rejecting many of the restrictive and obsessive health recommendations that are promising quick results and lead so many people into feeling of increased trapped-ness and misery. His brand-new book called “Wrecked” has just come out, and rarely before has a small book made me sigh with relief like his. Steve will tell us:
– When he started to feel self-conscious about his body
– Why it was in his chiropractor education that he basically stopped trusting his own body and started dieting
– What he thought when he started regaining the weight, and what that set off
– How many disordered eaters make up sensitivities that they don’t really have and end up believing their own fear-narrative
– Why, when we hold on to a certain food fear (carbs, fat, gluten…) in our minds, we start brainwashing ourselves into believing that any negative reactions are caused by that particular food and we go look for confirmation for this
– Why eliminating foods from our diets (for no other reason than believing the latest diet fad) most often leads to more obsession, and subsequently, more eliminations, and more health problems
– Why restricting, overexercising, obsessing, compulsive behaviors around food and movement and fear of food are actual stressors for the body and therefore, in themselves, harm our health
– Why he recommends never to slap any labels on ourselves when it comes to eating and exercising
– The social, mental and physical dangers of food tribes and their moral pressure and group identity
– How diet culture, food tribes and eating/exercise rules make us forget that we really are free people with individual needs and bodies
– How much pressure he built up around his own “quest for the better body”
– How he found out the hard way that diets and restriction never work long term
– How rules set us up for obsession, especially around food, weight and exercise
– His guilt about having lectured people about weight-loss and dieting
– What today’s culture of “Go! Go! Go!”, social media, comparison, and unrealistic imagery does to people’s mental and physical health
– Why people get sucked into being health-nuts and actually risking their health in the name of “hardcore health”
– Why he recommends to just “take the pressure out” and stop believing that you need to be “fixed”
– When he came to the realization that he, too, was barking up the wrong tree and something had to give
– How we can all live the life that is being promised to us “once we’re thin/toned/better looking” RIGHT NOW, with the body that we have
– Why some soul searching is necessary to find out about our true values in life
– How his own diet-recovery looked like
– Why letting go of rules will automatically lead to a decrease in food-obsession and compulsive thinking
– Why, after diet-recovery, our bodies will find the weight they are happy and healthy at
– Why living at war with your body is just no way to live, and not the way to happiness
– How true self-acceptance is never related to size/shape/weight…
… And so much more!

If you are interested in working with Steve, you can find him here:
http://www.healthnutrehab.com

Here’s the link to his book “Wrecked” on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.com/Wrecked-Quest-Health-Weight-Failed-ebook/dp/B074K5BBLB/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1501955529&sr=8-6&keywords=steve+prentice

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LU 033: Hilary Kinavey – How to be truly nourished and trust your own body.



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Hello, sweet radicals!

In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Hilary Kinavey from Portland, Oregon.

Hilary is a licensed professional counselor who specializes in disordered eating, trauma, anxiety, depression and addictions. She works in partnership with clients to develop a deeper understanding of their personal challenges, inner wisdom and their personal story. As a counselor, she places an emphasis on developing insight, mindfulness, and empathy for oneself. In 2005, she and Dana Sturtevant started facilitating groups to help women let go of food and weight obsession, and – sharing the same ideas – they then merged their practices to create a revolutionary approach to re-establish the “Body Trust” that we all had when we were born. They founded “Be Nourished”, a partnership that is based on the passion to help people lose the weight of body shame and to create the change they seek from a deeper place. They offer programs, workshops, retreats, and e-courses to help cultivate body trust, as well as counseling, yoga and naturopathic care to complement long-term body acceptance and the benefits of being physically and psychologically nourished. In addition to counseling, coaching, and facilitating, Hilary is a popular speaker on topics such as Health At Every Size, Intuitive Eating and Body Respect in health care communities, and she is a regular contributor to the Huffington post.
You’ll hear Hilary talk about:
– How her mother’s dieting made her focus on her own body
– How she came to believe that her body was not ok
– What she learned about what it meant to be “a successful woman”
– Why so many people still aren’t aware of how harmful diets can be
– What most of us are trying to achieve when we start weight-obsessing
– Why her parents’ feminism helped her a lot, even though dieting wasn’t being questioned yet back then
– How she learned about social justice issues from her parents
– Why people’s struggles with food and weight are often not addressed in counseling
– Why, sadly, women are lead from focusing on their own heart’s desires towards being stuck focusing solely on their desirability
– What it was that made the pieces fall together for her on her journey to self-acceptance
– What her first reaction was after she figured out what it is that keeps women from living their fullest expression and following their true desires
– What 5 steps we can all take to get rid of body-loathing
– How Intuitive Eating connected her with her own body
– Why Intuitive Eating and enjoying food freely leads to a feeling of empowerment
– How her whole life changed when she started trusting herself, her body and food
– How she breaks through the diet-mentality barriers of her clients
– What this body image work is really about, at the core
– How she helps her clients get over their resistance to feel emotions
– What her (and Dana Sturtevant’s) work at “Be Nourished” is all about
– How body respect is the first and easiest step towards body trust
– How to learn what diet-culture has robbed of us, and how that can help us grow
– Why it’s not about “not ever having a bad body day” again
– How “Be Nourished” helps health care providers get rid of weight-bias…

… And so much more!

Check out Hilary Kinavey and Dana Sturtevant’s work with “Be Nourished” here:
http://www.benourished.org

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https://www.facebook.com/benourishedpdx/?fref=ts

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LU 029: Isabel Foxen Duke – Learning from the mastermind behind “Stop Fighting Food”.



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Lovely radicals!

In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I talk to Isabel Foxen Duke from San Francisco. Isabel is a Certified Health Coach and Emotional Eating Expert.

She is the founder of the renowned “Stop Fighting Food”-program that has helped countless women making peace with food and their body, so that they could finally stop obsessing about food, and get back to enjoying their lives. After years of trying to overcome her binge eating through “traditional” and alternative approaches Isabel managed to heal herself, as she discovered how binge eating and dieting are linked. She is incredibly successful in her work and has helped thousands of women overcome their food issues for good. Listen to Isabel as she tells us:
– What her earliest memories are of “being in a body”
– What made her feel unattractive and “too big” when she was only a child
– What it was the set the stage for her quest for thinness
– Why she never got help and denied she had a food and body issue for so long
– Why no one recognized she had an eating disorder
– Why that quest for a thinner body has everything to do with her ending up with a cocaine habit
– What she learned in rehab
– What she thinks makes most eating disorder treatments resulting in such poor recovery rates
– What made her finally understand where her binging came from
– What helped her on the way to body acceptance, and why that work is key
– Why mental deprivation and restriction are just as binge-causing as physical deprivation
– How many people unconsciously restrict and don’t realize it
– Why diet-mentality is a stumbling block for our attempts to free ourselves of the “crazy feeling around food”
– Where weight discrimination comes from
– Where the term “body positivity” comes from
– Why healing our relationship with food does not mean acquiring a certain body size
– Why the “sugar addiction” and “food addiction” hype is so problematic
– How to overcome our internal diet-mentality
– What her program “Stop Fighting Food” is all about
– The difference between fat phobia and internalized fat-phobia and why both keep everyone stuck
– How weight-suppression keeps us from living our lives fully and freely
– Why it is important to see the toxic mechanisms behind diet-culture and the diet industry and how this can help us stepping out of old beliefs
– How to heal negative body image, let go of disordered eating, overcome food fears and end weight-obsession…

… And so much more!

Check out Isabel’s website and program:
http://www.stopfightingfood.com

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LU 020: Dr. Anita Johnston – “In the Light of the Moon” we transform our relationship with food.



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Lovely radical! Welcome to another beautiful ear-journey.

In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I’m talking to Dr. Anita Johnston from Colorado/Hawaii. She is a clinical psychologist, certified eating disorder specialist and storyteller who has been working with women struggling with eating and weight for over 30 years.

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She is the Clinical Director of the ’Ai Pono Eating Disorder Programs in Honolulu and the recently opened ’Ai Pono Maui residential facility on the Island of Maui, Hawaii. She is Senior Advisor & Clinical Consultant to Focus Treatment Centers in Chattanooga, Memphis, and Knoxville, Tennessee as well as Consultant to EATFED in Sydney and Melbourne, Australia. She is the author of “Eating in the Light of the Moon”, which has been published in six languages. As an international speaker, Dr. Anita Johnston talks about the effects of the preoccupation with dieting and weight that keep millions of women around the world obsessed and all too often unsuccessfully attempting to control their struggles. Her most recent project is an interactive online e-course and women’s support circle called the “Light of the Moon Café”. Listen to Anita tell us:
– Why she is still baffled that she herself didn’t develop an eating disorder when she was young
– Why she thinks having a sensitive, intuitive nature is making women prone to having eating issues and a negative body image
– How she became interested in women’s issues
– How she became aware of the prevalent obsession with weight-loss, diet and body that women are caught up in
– Why she is so passionate about her work treating eating disorders
– Why she chose metaphors for her bestseller “Eating in the Light of the Moon”
– What made her come up with the beautiful metaphors for her book
– Why women’s eating issues have everything to do with patriarchy
– How women can learn to appreciate and cherish their emotional intensity and intuitive skills
– Why assertive communication is one of the most important skills to learn
– How we can reframe what we have come to believe about women, bodies and food for decades
– Why diet-culture hurts women’s souls so much, and how we can grow a certain amount of resiliency against it
– Why having a supporting community of women is the antidote against the oppressive tendencies of diet-culture and patriarchy
– How she deals with it when diet-culture (magazines, media, commercials) start affecting her inner contentment and how she re-appreciates her body
– Why it is so important to learn to recognize and identify our internalized diet-mentality voice
– How we can strengthen our inner voice of compassion to grow strong enough disobey the oppressive and punishing rules of the internalized diet-mentality and the external diet-culture messages
–Why women’s bodies and women’s sexuality have continuously been objectified, judged and shamed
– What the purpose of her online platform called “Light of the Moon Café” is and what it offers
– Why her treatment center and programs on Hawaii are called ’Ai Pono…

… And so much more!

If you are interested in Dr. Anita Johnston’s work, check out her website:
http://www.dranitajohnston.com

Also, check out the “Light of the Moon Café”:
http://www.lightofthemooncafe.com/

Here’s the link to the ’Ai Pono healing center (Hawaii):
http://www.aipono.com/
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LU 016: Dr. Maria Paredes – Reframing and healing your relationship with your body.



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Hello, dear body acceptance radicals!

In today’s episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I’m talking to Dr. Maria Paredes from Greensboro, North Carolina. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Eating Disorders Specialist who describes herself as a five-star listener, heart healer, courage instiller, lover of ALL bodies, self-compassion coach, voice amplifier, companion to those in pain and a believer in hope.

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She holds a Bachelor degree in psychology, a Masters degree in school counseling, as well a a doctoral degree in counseling and counselor education. She helps people who are stuck in the diet-binge-cycle as well as those who want to feel more comfortable in their own skin, make peace with food and with their bodies. She offers individual and group counseling, clinical supervision, workshops, and talks at schools, workplaces and different communities. Listen to Maria tell us:
– How she grew up without constant diet-talk, weight-obsessing or body-shaming
– What made her get into her field of work
– How she helps her clients with different therapy methods like Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Relational-Cultural Therapy (RCT)
– Why she doesn’t demonize any behaviors around food and how she finds out what the behavior represents
– How she lets people re-relate to behaviors like binge-eating
– Why she is against “forcing” people to let go of their coping mechanism and what she does instead
– How she helps parents not to pass on the difficult relationship they have to food and body to their children
– What she says about her “butt” when she looks in the mirror (hint: it’s gooooood!)
– How we can utilized Social Media to our benefit when it comes to un-learn toxic ideas about weight, body, food and shape
– Why she fully supports the Health At Every Size (HAES) principles and Intuitive Eating
– How she introduces these concepts to her clients
– How she helps overcome their internalized shame and fat-phobic beliefs
– What helped her become aware of the weight- and fat-stigma in our world
– How she helps her clients educate themselves about diet-culture and the capitalistic machinery behind it, and how this helps us stepping out of old beliefs
– Why she thinks the path to real body and food liberation are MUCH harder to do than going along with the mainstream dogma and constant dieting
– How she started to appreciate her own body
– Why we will always be stuck in a weight-obsessed mentality (and spend precious amounts of energy and time trying to “fix” our bodies) unless we address internalized fat-phobia
– Why it is so important to surround ourselves with people and images of people of all shapes and sizes to end our inner fat-phobic beliefs
– What makes the HAES movement so incredibly beautiful, warm and welcoming…

… And so much more!
If you are interested in working with Dr. Maria Paredes or finding out more about what she does, check out her website:
http://www.threebirdscounseling.com
Also, check out her Facebook site called “Body Politics with Dr. Paredes”:
https://m.facebook.com/BodyPoliticsWithDrParedes/?__mref=message_bubble

 

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The top five regrets of the dieting.

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Let’s talk about regrets, dieting and… dying.
Great way to start a post, isn’t it? Totally uplifting.

So here we go.
There’s a wonderful woman called Bronnie Ware who worked as a palliative nurse for many years. As she was tending to the needs of people who were dying, she started recording the regrets that these people expressed to her. She collected them. Thousands of them. And she subsequently wrote about them. Her book is called “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing”.
Most of us have heard of them, and most of us even gave the list some thought, but then… life happened. The daily grind.
Let us refresh our memories, shall we?

Here are the Top Five Regrets the dying expressed:
# 1 … They wish they’d had the courage to live life true to themselves
# 2 … They wish they hadn’t worked so hard
# 3 … They wish they’d had more courage to express their feelings
# 4 … They wish they had stayed in touch with their friends
# 5 … They wish they had let themselves be happier

„Yes. But what do these have to do with dieting?“ you ask.
„Only everything“, I say.

I’m assuming, of course, but let’s say, you’re one of those people who – like me – spent decades trying to lose weight, suppress weight or maintain weight, engaging in excessive exercise even when injured, feeling guilty for eating “too much”, feeling shame for “losing control” and binging, not ever feeling comfortable in your skin, obsessing about calories, the scale and the size of our pants, declining invitations to social gatherings for fear of “eating too much of the bad foods”, not having birthday cake because you’re trying to “be good”, pinching your stomach, hating your thighs and following every piece of diet-advice that is being thrown around in the media. Let’s assume, you’re one of those people who – like me – risked illness in the name of health, wrecking your hormones and metabolism, in other words doing everything in order to avoid weight gain.
And, for the sake of the argument, let’s assume for a minute that we’re all lying on our deathbeds. Can you picture yourself?
Good.
Now, let’s have a look at those regrets through the dieting-lens.

# 1 … They wish they’d had the courage to live life true to themselves.
(—Sadly, a perfect match.)
Because no, we didn’t have the courage to live life true to ourselves. We were very much concerned about what other people expected us to do, and what they expected us to look like. In fact, we internalized society’s arbitrary beauty standards and tried our damnest to conform to them. Exit “live life true to yourself”…

# 2 … They wish they hadn’t worked so hard.
(—Well, it looks like CARPE DIEM flew right out of the window when we started our quest for thinness, right?)
Maybe the first diet was comparably easy, and we were high from all the compliments we got. So when the weight started to creep back up, we doubled down on our efforts, and we loved being showered with praise for our “discipline” and “willpower”. But then, our bodies started to fight back against our attempts at starving it, and flooded us with crazy cravings, which eventually made us binge. And from there, it progressively got worse, didn’t it? Now desperate for control, we cranked up our efforts to keep our weight “in check”. Over time, weight-suppressing turned into a full time job, and we spent half of our mental bandwidth obsessing about food, weight, and how “broken” our body was. Adding the hours, days, weeks, months or years we spent dieting or rigidly weight-suppressing, we end up with a heart-wrenching amount of time (decades?) spent hating our body for not meeting the current beauty ideal. When we truly think about how much time we spent obsessing over our appearance – time that is forever lost – … it makes us want to cry. Possibly forever.

# 3 … They wish they’d had the courage to express their feelings.
(—Oh funny, another match.)
Dieting is an addiction. Dieters are afraid. By dieting, people numb out by obsessing over calories, scales, their pant size, “good” and “bad” foods, meal plans, “health” blogs, diet advice, excessive exercise and therefore not having to really participate in the mess that is LIFE. Afraid of loneliness, rejection and sadness, we often end up manifesting just that. What do dieters really mean when they say “I feel fat”? What kind of truth are we masking by putting all the blame on our body for something that hasn’t got anything to do with its size? What if we did, instead, express how we truly feel? How about saying “Hey, I feel really vulnerable, insecure, sad, angry or confused right now”. What if we stopped pointing the finger at our weight and stopped hiding behind this admittedly cheap and cowardly deflection.

# 4 … They wish they had stayed in touch with their friends.
(—Damn. Yes. That one, too.)
This one, I find particularly painful… I’d be lying if I said that this doesn’t apply to all the years when I was trying to maintain my lower weight. I am still recovering, as you know, but already now, I can see just how many social invitations I declined, how many friends I stopped going out for dinner with because I was worried about the food, and about losing control. Just how much my constant worrying was keeping me imprisoned in my own mind, how it seemed so much “safer” to stay alone, to eat my “safe” foods, to binge alone, to exercise alone, to prioritize all my weight-obsessing above everything else. When I didn’t exercise, going out and doing something else was out of the question, and I would squeeze it in, no matter what.

# 5 … They wish they had let themselves be happier.
(—The most punch-me-in-the-gut-match of them all.)
Oh boy. All those years. All those decades… I was doing what I was doing because I still believed that “once I reached a certain weight”, then I could be happy, I could date, I could RELAX, I could enjoy life. And it took me forever to see that all I did was maneuver myself further away from happiness. Further and further away from the idea of “real intimacy”, carefree laughter, midnight cake or lazy Sundays. I didn’t let myself be happy. I thought happy was around the corner.

Ha, funny how these regrets of the dying all apply so perfectly to us dieters, isn’t it?
Only, it’s not funny at all.

There is no “around the corner”. All we have is NOW.
Let us let ourselves be happy.
Let us reach out. Let us laugh.
Let us eat cake.
Let us jump for joy.
Let us cry.
Let us do your own thing.
Let us acknowledge our innate awesomeness.
Let us throw out the diet-books and that motherfucking scale.
Let us live.

We only have this one ride.
Love,
Meret.

LU 008: Vania Phitidis – Feeling peaceful around food and your body (+ some instant therapy)



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My friend, how nice to see you are tuning back in!

In this episode of the “Life. Unrestricted.” podcast, I get to talk to Vania Phitidis from Sussex, Great Britain. Vania is an Intuitive Eating Counsellor, an MB-EAT teacher, MB-EAT being the acronym for Mindfulness-Based Eating Awareness Training) as well as a Self Esteem Mentor. She has a master in Education for Sustainability from London South Bank and a Bachelor degree in Psychology and Art history from VITS.

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In order to resolve her own body image issues and eating disorders she found that she had to let go of 5 things. 1 – unrealistic expectations of herself, 2 dieting, 3 restricting particular foods, 4 trying to get and stay skinny and 5 attempting to be perfect. Sounds easy, but was a lifelong process that she will tell us about. What she is focused on nowadays is being her most powerful self and helping others to enhance the quality of their own life and make better use of it than eternally dieting. For me, it’s vulnerability time today… In this episode, Vania Phitidis doesn’t just show us how we can let go of our food and weight fears and approach health from a sane and loving perspective. But she uses me as an example… and questions my inner gremlin voice. Find out how that turns out! So, listen in and hear Vania tell us her story:
– How early it got into her head that women should „lose weight“
– How quick children are to copy what they see their mothers do
– What made her develop bulimia and how bad that got for her
– Why giving up bulimia didn’t change anything on a mental level
– Why she subsequently got stuck in dieting and being constantly worried about her weight
– Why it is that diets (or “lifestyle changes” where weight-loss is the goal!) DO NOT work
– Why we often do the worst thing for our body when we train too often and too hard.
– What it takes to overcome the eternally distracting quest for thinness
– How she overcame her internalized fear of weight gain
– How we can choose what we expose ourselves to
– How she learned that everyone, including herself, is inherently worthy
– Why women who stay obsessed by weight-loss and dieting are severely limiting their potential
– How she learned to calm her mind and catch the thoughts that kept her stuck
– How we can learn to question our beliefs and our thinking
– Why it is important to question what we believe is „true“, simply because we “always believed it”
– Why mindfulness is key on the path to self-acceptance and body-acceptance
– How mindfulness can help us become aware of our feelings and our spontaneous reactions
– Why she doesn’t advise anyone to shout back at the inner critic, and what to do instead
– Why she believes that Intuitive Eating is the only way to leave the days of “feeling crazy around food” behind
– Why the switch from dieting to Intuitive Eating takes a leap of faith and can be very challenging
– Why real progress in the direction of healing is not possible unless we work on our body image and our deep-rooted fat-phobia
– How she deals with people who engage in diet-talk, body-shaming and eternal weight-loss-talk bonding.
– What her mission in life is…

…And so much more!
Check out Vania Phitidis and her coaching over at:
http://www.peacefuleating.co.uk
Also find her group on Facebook “It’s not about the weight”

The book that opened her eyes on the oppressive nature of diet-culture:
Naomi Wolf: “The Beauty Myth”
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LU 007: Kathleen A. Bishop – There’s a life beyond internalized fat-phobia.



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My friend, lovely seeing you here again!
In today’s episode of the Life Unrestricted podcast, I talk to Kathleen A. Bishop from San José, California. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor and Relapse Prevention Specialist. In private practice, she specializes in Eating and Substance Use Disorders and she works at a non-profit providing Intensive Outpatient Treatment to clients with Substance Use Disorder and cooccurring mental health conditions like anxiety, depression or Eating Disorders. Kathleen, who is also a body positive size diversity activist who promotes Health At Every Size (HAES) principles to end stigma and mistreatment that is associated with weight, has overcome her own body image obsessions and she shares her great insights with us!

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In this episode of the Life Unrestricted podcast, she talks about … all of it. You’ll even hear about the craziest diet you have ever heard. Wait for it. Horse urine is involved…. But more importantly, you’ll learn:
– How she finally found freedom from yoyo-dieting, body insecurity and disordered eating
– Why a person’s size never tells us anything about their health and the dangers of equating “thin” to “healthy”
– How she started to appreciate her own body
– Why we will always be stuck in a weight-obsessed mentality (and spend precious amounts of energy and time trying to “fix” our bodies) unless we address internalized fat-phobia
– Why it is so important to surround ourselves with people and images of people of all shapes and sizes to end our inner fat-phobic beliefs
– How we can learn to trust ourselves and our bodies again
– How to heal negative body image, let go of disordered eating, overcome food fears and end weight-obsession
– Why it is important to see the toxic mechanisms behind diet-culture and the diet industry and how this can help us stepping out of old beliefs
– How harmful weight-stigma really is and that it is a lose-lose situation for everybody
– How thin people can use the word “fat” appropriately when talking about bigger bodied humans…

… And so much more!
Check out Kathleen’s body positive page on Facebook, where she promotes self-acceptance through Intuitive Eating and with the Health At Every Size principles. The page is called “Body Peace & Liberation”.
If you are interested in her work or working with her, you’ll find all the infos here:
http://www.bodypeaceliberation.com

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LU 006: Kaila Prins – How to stand up against society’s restrictive standards and live life fully.

 

 

Lovelies!
Are you ready to meet the first drag queen who is actually trapped in a woman’s body? In today’s episode of the Life Unrestricted Podcast, I am chatting with Kaila Prins, the woman with the most awesome drag make up I’ve ever seen. She is a body positive burlesque and pole dancer and by that she is a performing woman… performing “woman”!

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Kaila is also a body positive wellness and recovery coach, feminist writer and speaker and a fellow podcastine… She talks about her 13-year battle with eating disorders, calorie counting, yo-yo dieting and compulsive exercise and has the most amazing guests. Kaila is one of the precious few voices who bring the taboo topics of eating disorders, exercise addiction, and body image obsession into the open and is an inspiration for thousands – myself included.

This show will leave you feeling ready to change the world, one step towards self-acceptance at a time. You will hear us talk about:
– How “healthy” and “skinny” have nothing to do with each other
– How we are potentially harming ourselves by doing what society calls “healthy”
– How most eating disorders go undiagnosed in a culture that promotes harmful behaviors
– How to tell if you are exercise dependent and how to break free of exercise addiction
– How too much exercise can be severely damaging to our bodies, our fertility and our emotional health
– How our obsession to be skinny can keep us trapped in recovered-enough and how this can hold us trapped and certainly keeps us from enjoying life as fully as we could
– How we can actually LET ourselves enjoy life, step out of our obsession to control our bodies and the need to be thinner
– How to get over our internalized fat-phobia and diet-culture mindset
– Why burlesque dancing is a great way to help you reconnect to and feel good in your body as it is returning to its happy weight
– How discovery is an important to leave the disordered mindset behind and step into your real self
– How discovering who you really are is worth so much more than living your life trying to match an unrealistic, distorted ideal
– How important it is to see behind media’s messages, to understand the psychology of marketing, to educate ourselves how we are being marketed to and why advertisement is intended to make us feel “less than” and “not good enough”, so that we, as customers, keep coming back
– How we can change the conversation, one brave woman at a time…

… And so much more!

 

Kaila is currently working on a program to work with clients who want to leave their exercise addiction and disordered eating behaviors behind and start living a fulfilling, satisfying life according to their own rules. You’ll find out more about her, her blog, her dancing gigs and (soon) her program on her website:
http://www.performingwoman.com
You can follow her on all the different social media platforms (@performingwoman) and her awesome podcast is here:
http://www.findingourhunger.com

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LU 005: Sarah Vance – When having the “goal body” means misery and obsession.



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Lovely ones… Yay! Welcome to episode 5 of the “Life Unrestricted Podcast”…
… You are going to love what you hear.
In this episode of the “Life Unrestricted Podcast”, you are going to meet Sarah Vance from Cincinnati, a truly fabulous chick who knows exactly what it means when we let the mission to “get our goal body” take over our lives. Sarah experienced first hand how – back when “her body was a project” – life can feel increasingly horrible, and that the more obsessed we become with weight and appearance, the more our health is at the risk of declining. As a former bikini model and exercise addict who was severely obsessed with food, weight, fitness and her appearance, she knows the battle of so many people in today’s society. She has managed to step out of restriction misery and has healed her compulsive relationship to exercise. It has become her mission to help others reclaim their freedom with their bodies and their relationship to food. She is a body image coach who specializes in banishing body hate and in getting a handle on emotional eating.

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This week, on the “Life Unrestricted Podcast”, she shares with us:
– How she slipped into the increasingly obsessive mindset where “good” was never “good enough”
– How we often don’t realize how sneakily a body- and weight-obsessed mentality can turn our life into a trap
– Why she ignored her declining health (loss of period, injuries, hair falling out…) for so long
– What the turning point for her was when she said “enough”
– What the first crucial steps are when we want to heal our negative body image and self-loathing
– How helpful it was to her to learn about the mechanisms of diet-culture and the way media portrays women
– Why the majority of eating disorders aren’t being detected and how our culture promotes disordered behavior as “healthy”
– How body positivity helped her on her path towards body acceptance
– What the most important steps are when we want to break free from obsessive behaviors
– Why we need to detach “food” from “exercise” in our minds
– How she got through the most difficult periods of recovery
– Why she now celebrates every menstrual cycle she gets
– How we can tackle the issue of “body image in the bedroom”
– How she worked through her issues to now be able to enjoy a truly fulfilling sex life that was non-existent before
– How she intends to help change the harmful existing paradigm that keeps so many people trapped in the idea that they have to “look good”…

… And so much more!

Check out Sarah’s awesome website and find out about her coaching business at: http://www.sarahvance.com
Here’s the link to the 2017 retreat in San Diego with Summer Innanen:
http://www.reclaimretreat.com

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Please consider supporting the podcast with a donation by becoming a “Patreon”; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here’s the link:
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